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**Flatlander Fox** · February 6, 2003, 22:19

I gave my wife a dollar bill, rolled into a ring. Neither one of us are very materialistic, so we could save the horrific amounts of money spent on several rings (One or both of which contain expensive diamonds) for something more useful, like a home together.

I gave her a small sapphire ring soon after that as a gift, and we called it an engagement/promise ring.

We then picked our wedding ring set later, but her engagement ring will always be the dollar bill ring I gave her the night I proposed.

**cavebear** · February 6, 2003, 22:32

Do yourself a favor and make sure the Engagement ring is one she really likes. The style you buy will be analyzed forever by her and her women friends, and it will suggest to her whether or not or "really" understand her.

Since you have both discussed marriage, the idea that you may be looking for an Engagement ring will not come as a surprize. Trust me, she knows more about how close you are to proposing than you probably know yourself.

So let her "help" you to decide which style of ring would seem right to her.

And that goes triple for a Wedding ring!

Suggestion: When you are out together, drop into a jewler shop to have your watch "repaired" (pop out one of those little pins that holds the watch to the strap). While you are waiting, look at the Engagement rings and comment on a few. She will be sure to give you some strong clues on which styles she likes.

**FrostyBoy** · February 6, 2003, 22:35

Well, actually I know what she wants, she's a decent and smart woman, she is not interested in glamour etc. She just wants two plain rings. I'm very sure I will be getting platinum.

**orange** · February 6, 2003, 22:47

note: Women hate being proposed to on days like Christmas, Valentines Day, etc. They don't want to have to share the day

They also want 'extra' gifts. Hehe...

**FrostyBoy** · February 6, 2003, 22:52

Geez, I am lucky to have my g/f if that's what your g/f's have pulled you through.

**Caligastia** · February 6, 2003, 22:52

I think the engagement ring is worn for life too, my wife wears hers. You don't have to worry about the wedding rings till the wedding.

It's quite ironic, because right when I decided I would propose to her, she's started to get very annoying and frustrating; so naturally I am getting nervous and concerned. Divorce is not an option once we are married.

Better find out why she's getting "annoying and frustrating" all of a sudden, although I tend to think it's probably a passing phase considering that you were together for two years.

That's great that you guys will probably get married. Marriage is takes work, but it is more than worth it! You will learn to be unselfish, and there is nothing better than having your lover and a best friend all rolled into one.

Good luck mate, and keep us posted eh?

**MattyBoy** · February 6, 2003, 22:54

I did a poor job of the whole proposal thing.
The only thing I got right was letting her choose the engagement ring.

**orange** · February 6, 2003, 22:55

Originally posted by Sn00py
Geez, I am lucky to have my g/f if that's what your g/f's have pulled you through.

no, my ex girlfriend put me through much, much worse.

**cavebear** · February 6, 2003, 22:58

My parents' anniversary is December 26th. My mother says that, while it seemed romantic at the time, she has regretted it ever since. Maybe that's why June weddings are so popular - a good spread among Christmas, Valentine's Day, and the anniversary.

BTW, I've never even been engaged. But I *have* heard numerous tales of misery from a lot of married guys who didn't make sure the Engagement ring was satisfactory to the bride-to-be.

**Dinner** · February 6, 2003, 22:58

Don't ask her on Valentine's Day. Make it a special and unique day which isn't a holiday.

**Tiamat** · February 6, 2003, 23:38

**walks by thread......slams on breaks** Did someone say rings???

I do love good jewelry.

Ok, the guys are right on this one. If you are going to ask her on Valentines day....

the same day everyone else and their dog asks someone to get married..........

then make 110% sure that you make it the most special occassion of her life. Remember she will relive that moment over and over and over and over and.......well you get the picture so get it right the first time.

Since you have said you both aren't materialistic then find something that speaks to your heart and that you can live with.

We used the old addage that goes along with the wedding day, something old, something new, something borrowed etc...... My birthstone is ruby and a friend of mine had a beautiful ring filled with rubies and diamonds. She no longer wore it nor wanted to keep it so she passed it on to me for my something old and to put with it we got simple gold wedding bands.

Simplicity also gives you something to add to down the road as well. If you get that big job and make the big bucks for an anniversary you can always upgrade her original model or have a copy made with jewels or you can add matching jewelry to it which is what Steve did for christmas for me this year. He got a ruby and diamond cross that is almost a perfect match to my engagement ring. So you do have many options.

And don't feel alone on the two ring issue. That was a big sticking point for us before we got married.

**orange** · February 7, 2003, 00:53

see, 2 posts already agree with me

I talk sense, i really do!

**AnnC** · February 7, 2003, 01:48

Snoopy, give her a small gift when you propose (but not a ring).

Not every woman wants an engagement ring. Personally, I don't like rings with gems in raised mounts (like a typical engagement ring), so I opted for a wide gold wedding band. Your wife-to-be might want to do the same.

**FrostyBoy** · February 7, 2003, 02:18

But isn't a band a bracelet?

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