Turning people down

[Nubclear]

Hmm....Back in my day, I simply said that I had genital warts () and that I would terminate the date if they didn't suck on my penis. It worked.

[self biased]

Originally posted by Boddington's
Ignore them.

Problem is it usually works in the exact opposite way.

stew. you have no idea how right you are, stew.

[Lorizael]

Don't you kinda have to have someone else interested in you before you can turn them down?

I say, be honest. If it's a random person at a bar, odds are you'll never see them again.

[Sirotnikov]

I must say that I also have trouble when it comes to turning people down. I'm usually very sympathetic and tend to be willing to go more than half of a way towards someone.

But I think that turning people down too often is bad.

I didn't expect my current relationship to work. I thought it wouldn't and that I would feel uncomfortable. I was on the brink of turning it down (I told her I'm going to take a few weeks to think about it).

But I decided to go for it, since I didn't want to lose her as a friend. And I must tell you that my gf is one of the most amazing people I've ever met. And my relationship with her is very different from what I had expected.

So, only turn down if you are completely sure you don't want it.

[cavebear]

Cruelty is never necessary. When someone approaches you (of whatever sex and whatever sexual orientation), they have taken what is usually a difficult step to initiate communication. Sure, there are always some people who will go around and try to hit on anyone and everyone, but most people don't.

Be flatterred they saw something interesting about you, and if you don't see that in return, just tell them in a friendly way. Life's hard enough as it is.

[Dauphin]

If there is a chance it would work, try it out. If there is no chance then can it there and then. Don't dance around the issue. You don't need to say anything nasty, just "I'm not interested in you in that way". If its a complete stranger just a "Sorry, not interested" is enough.