My girlfriend's parents hate my guts

[JohnT]

Well, at least it your girlfriends parents hate your guts and not your real ones.

Honestly, I think the problem lies with her. If she is unwilling to draw the proverbial "line in the sand" with her mother and tell them to butt out of her personal life, then why is it your fault?

[Blackwidow24]

SM, I am only mean to those I like...seems you have been foiled!!!! MMWWWWWAHAHAHAA..

No but seriously folks, don't worry about the parent thing, not many parents approve of their child's mate..just blow it off and I am sure they will have to deal with YOU especially since your GF likes you. Let them develope the ulcer..you're to young to worry about things like that.!

[Lefty Scaevola]

Originally posted by Saint Marcus
no, they all like me. My friend's parents. My ex-gf's parents. Just not these two. Well, it's mainly her mom pulling all the crap.

No, they are just being polite, they really hate you. Everyone over 30 years old hates you.

[Tiamat]

**smacks Lefty** Be nice to the child. Look as a parent I can say it is our job to hate the people our kids love on some level then we eventually will give in if we see that there is just no hope.

Put yourself in their shoes. Trust me they do remember what it is like to be that young and why you want to see their daughter. And I would wager that they do know you are sleeping with her. Trust me Mother's always know these things. Especially if she sees her daughter afterwards..........she will know.

You just have to hang in there keep trying and know that this to shall pass and they will either give up, give in or she will move out and in with you so the problem will solve itself.

I have three duaghters of teenage age...........why do you think their are baseball bats at every exit? So I can beat the living ****e out of the boy who messes with my child.

[Blackwidow24]

Hey that's what I said.. COPY CAT!!!

[*End Is Forever*]

What her parents think is irrelevent. Sure, it's awkward, but what matters is what you - and your girlfriend - think. If you care enough about each other, then you will see it out... how long have you been going out?

[Sprayber]

Simple solution. Take a stand. If your girlfriend can't do it then either deal with the sneaking around or get another girlfriend.

I really should get paid for my advice. Who is next?

[MichaeltheGreat]

The basic deal is this (a conversation I had with my parents over a quarter century ago, and most kids have sooner or later with their parents) If she wants to live in their house, she has to live under their rules, like it or not.

She can sneak, she can draw lines in the sand, argue, whine, deal with it, whatever, but the basic deal is that the situation can ultimately escalate to go by their rules, or get out.

If she wants to live off their financial support, under their roof, but live the way she wants, that's hypocritical. It's her call what she wants to do, and your call as well, but being a rebel without a clue while sponging off mommy and daddy is kid crap. If she wants to call the tune and live by her own rules, she can belly up to the bar and pay her own way 100%. That's the price of freedom and adulthood.

[Chris 62]

This whole topic is one giant straight line for me.

WHY did you have to phrase it like THAT?

OK, here's the deal, if you both love each other, tell em to mind their own buisness.

It's all you can do and it works.

[Zylka]

HAHAHAHAHA, you've already f*cked her?

Regardless of what some dipsh*t alcoholic sheriff of a father like MtG can come up with, you've won half the battle. March on, and love!

[monolith94]

Whew, in MikeytheGreat country people have it harsh.
I receive financial support from my parents because without it I'd die (ok slight hyperbole), and am allowed to make my own decisions because they treat me as an adult and trust me. Nice deal. Of course, if I majorly screw up, their help may be in jeapordy, but I know that.
It's one of the things that reminds me not to screw up.
Stupid parents with their stupid rules. I'm so happy to have a functional family.

[JimmyCracksCorn]

Re: My girlfriend's parents hate my guts

Originally posted by Saint Marcus
My girlfriend's parents hate my guts. For various reasons, none of which I can really change.

Don't listen to these goofs about fighting, that will get you no where. Now, I wonder what the ratio of warhawks to people with girlfriends is

No, but seriously, you need to go with the flow, no matter how fascist her parents are... thats the way life is, and trust me, if they like you, things will be infinitely easier on you. But they don't even have to like you alot, they just have to tolerate you.

Partly, because of who I am. Liberal left wing moderate Catholic. Exactly the oposite of Sarah's parents (Sarah herself is a lot more like me though, or else I wouldn't have dated her in the first place).

Of course you can change this! At least as far as they're concerned. Ok, so you know they're pretty conservative and non catholic. This means don't go to their house and start preaching liberal catholic rhetoric. And if its your apearance that clues them off, maybe leave the skater outfit and Che Guevera t-shirt at home next time But of course I don't actually know how you dress. The point is, your political agenda should be irrelevant to how much they like you because they shouldn't even know! If you're deadset against war in Iraq and her dad asks you what you think, just take a moderate stance. You don't even have to agree, or just simply say "I don't really know what to think". Then as soon as you leave the house, you can start protesting against the WTO again!

Its not selling out, its just the way the world works. Like MtG said, its their house, and its their rules... being a rebel without a clue is kid's stuff. Besides, you should want as good of a relationship with her parents as possible, because it makes life EASY!

Now as for her mom "hacking" into her e-mail, that probably wasn't the case. Its very very difficult to hack into mailboxes these days, especially popular web-based ones, and ESPECIALLY if you're a middle aged housewife She probably just guess the password or something... tell your girlfriend not to make it so easy next time. It doesn't make it right, but like I said, you have to go with the flow. Get her another account somewhere that only you and her know about, then there's no worrying.

And as for making things better with her parents, I don't know, it looks like you fudged it up royal already. I would suggest maybe writing her parents a very "sincerere" letter of apology (written, not e-mail) in which you take blame for everything (don't let pride get in the way).

Of course, this is only if you think she's worth it. If she's a loudmouth, take this opportunity to hit the road while you can.

[Bereta_Eder]

Hmm... it would be an interesting change if the parents of a girlfriend of mine would hate my guts...

They always love me. I have the "bat's little bone" (greek phrase which means you become instantly lovable)


it would be cool though...
although in this age (26ish) parents opinions dont usually matter...

but i mean they even sometimes talk to me about their daugher (and my girlfriend) asking me for advice...!


and she gets SO pissed off when she finds out

[Bereta_Eder]

although i think she fakes it - the being pissed off thing.

i think she likes it that i get along fine with her parents - she also gets along fine with my mum.

her dad gets pissed off everytime i beat him in chess though

anyway sorry for my ramblings, nothing else to do right now

[JimmyCracksCorn]

Originally posted by paiktis22
although i think she fakes it - the being pissed off thing.

i think she likes it that i get along fine with her parents - she also gets along fine with my mum.

her dad gets pissed off everytime i beat him in chess though

anyway sorry for my ramblings, nothing else to do right now

Yeah, my girlfriends parents love me too... it just makes things great. Even though we live in aother province, it just makes things easier.

When they like you, they're more likely to help you pay for groceries, rent, etc... Well, if you live with her that is.