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So, here's the thing-- I meet someone really excellent, no beauty pageant winner, but decent, funny, nice, yada yada. One problem. My crush is engaged to get married, and wants me to be the best man, unknowing of my high opinion. What is a boy to do?
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i thought the groom also picked the best man, you sure she didn't want you to be a bridesmaid?
"The Christian way has not been tried and found wanting, it has been found to be hard and left untried" - GK Chesterton.
"The most obvious predicition about the future is that it will be mostly like the past" - Alain de Botton -
Huh, the crush is a man.Tutto nel mondo è burlaComment
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Do they have beauty pageants for men? (I know they have contests of that sort, but do they call them pageants?)Comment
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Does it count if it's men dressed in drag?Tutto nel mondo è burlaComment
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Yes, o astute one, if it were a woman she would ask me to be a bridesmaid. However, it's a man, and even though he knows I'm gay, he doesn't know that I think he's cooler than cheez wiz (pretty damn cool). I was tempted to tell him what I thought of him, but I didn't want to cause drama... but yet, I've always been very much into being forthright and honest. ARG!Comment
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Falling for straight men is bad news. Don't do it. You will have your heart broken, and it won't be anyone's fault but your own.Tutto nel mondo è burlaComment
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He's repeatedly insisted that he isn't gay, as is made obvious by his engagement, but he seems hellbent on teasing. Like, we go to a party, bar, etc, get drunk and he gets very affectionate. It's not the usual "flirting" that I do with straight friends... exaggerated lisps, raunchy comments, over-limp wrists. He just gets really touchy-feely. So, I thought... hey, maybe he's reciprocating. But, what the hay, he's getting married so I should just forget about it...... right? Right?Originally posted by Aeson
Unless this person had shown some interest in you, in which case... is it true love or just a crush? Just don't be like Ed and ride a horse named crazy willey.
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YES.
He's probably teasing you like that because it makes him feel attractive that a gay guy would flirt with him and it gives him a bit of a power kick. You should probably ask him to cut it out unless he is serious, because it is toying with your emotions.
If he's closted and getting married, that's a whole 'nother can of psychological worms you do NOT want to get enmeshed in. That's all the more reason to avoid a crush.Tutto nel mondo è burlaComment
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[league of gentlemen] oh, poofter eh[/league of gentlemen]Originally posted by Boris Godunov
Huh, the crush is a man.
well if he's getting married then it's pretty obvious he won't be in interested in another guy. best advice i can give is to be the best man for your friend, wish him and his wife well and try and find someone who is a) gay and b) available
"The Christian way has not been tried and found wanting, it has been found to be hard and left untried" - GK Chesterton.
"The most obvious predicition about the future is that it will be mostly like the past" - Alain de BottonComment
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Yeah. That was the conclusion that I reached. But I'm a victim of the killer "what if." Oh well. Thanks.Comment
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argh, bloody crossposts."The Christian way has not been tried and found wanting, it has been found to be hard and left untried" - GK Chesterton.
"The most obvious predicition about the future is that it will be mostly like the past" - Alain de BottonComment
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I don't know that I'd act on anything that happened while he was under the influence of alcohol.
right? Right?
Right. Even if he is in the closet, the fact that he's getting married to a female is a sign he's nowhere near ready to come out. Either way, 'right'.Comment
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When the parson says 'Speak now or forever hold your peace' you jump out, tell her how much you love her, kiss her, undress her quickly and you make passionate love to her on the altar as a sign of your undieing passion for her.
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