Spankings

[Gibsie]

What I want to know is what does a parent who spanks their child do for punishment when the kid reaches the age where he likes a good spanking.

[Blackwidow24]

I Rarely spank my children, i am a kind and understanding parent but a child without structure, limitations and discipline will be a spoiled and bad child. My children do not fear me and therefore obey me out of love and respect as opposed to my own parent whom i obeyed out of fear of being beat.

[MikeH]

I don't have any children but I regularly spank my monkey.

[Blackwidow24]

Originally posted by MikeH
I don't have any children but I regularly spank my monkey.

UUUUUCCCCCKKKKKKKK

[MikeH]

[Blackwidow24]

I guess if I had a monkey I would spank it daily

[MikeH]

You want to be careful, the animal welfare people are quite fanatical.

[Blackwidow24]

Okay Mike..*wink*wink*

[Dr Strangelove]

Originally posted by SlowwHand
I thumped my daughter. That was usually enough.

Errr.... There are places in the US where "thumping" a female probably doesn't mean what you mean. Or not.

[Dr Strangelove]

One of the problems with researching topics like this, the effect of spanking on personality development, is that it is so difficult to take into consideration all the other variables that have an effect. While some well adjusted and loving parents may use spanking as a form of discipline there are many others who use spanking to vent their own frustrations, or who are limited in their ability to love the child and use force to express their resentment, or have difficulty limiting the expression of their anger. Ideally a researcher would like to consider only the effect of spanking administered by parents of the first type, but this is hard to do.

Something to consider about the putitative relationship between the trend away from corporal discipline and adolescemt violence is that many parents who abandoned spanking really had no other form of discipline to substitute for it. I've known many parents who, trying to not use corporal punishment, simply distance themselves from the kids. others who substitue harmful yelling and others who pen up their feelings about the kid until they reach a point of overload and wind up exploding in fury.

[Blackwidow24]

I agree Doctor Strangelove. Like I said in my earlier post..you establish your authority with punishment...whether you do it in a extremely negative manner or in my case a positive manner. My children have learned that there will be consequences for something that they know is wrong..however I will never punish my children for making honest, accidental mistakes..for example for breaking a glass or tracking mud in the house... and spanking is not the only form of punishment I use in fact this type of punishment I use only in dire situation...like if my child puts themselves in harms way!! You see...like I said gaining a childs respect out of fear is a very bad thing...gaining their respect through love and understand and explination of the punishment is another and I NEVER hit my child out of anger and I always make sure they understand what it is they are being punished for. Also I use the one swat method..there is no point in my opinion to hit more than once.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

I grew up with loads of dogs. I can make a dog cower just using body language. Now I'm trying the same trick on my daughter, and it seems to work. Hopefully I'll keep her in line without hitting her at any point.

[Hydey]

When a child is throwing a temper tantrum and refuses to stop a little smack that causes much noise but little pain is the only thing I know that stops it.

My kids grew up with the one warning rule, If you do that again you will get a smack, they soon learned that dad was fair dinkum about it.

By the age of 6 or 7 my kids no longer got smacked as I learned they feared not watching TV or using the PC more.

[Alexander's Horse]

Yes, smacking is a last resort for us too and other punishments are more effective.

But here's a classic from yesterday morning. Every day I drop the children off to school and childcare. This involves several trips to and from the house - baby in first, then the other "guys" as they now call themselves, then bags etc.

The older 2 reported that the youngest Dominic (3) had been playing with the gear stick of the car whilst I was getting the bags and sure enough the 4WD was in neutral. He's been warned over and over about that. I can't afford him to do that with the kids in the car and the baby strapped into the seat. What if he does it on a steep hill park? I asked him if he'd done it. He said Yes. I smacked the offending hand. He cried but it was over in a minute or so.

By contrast, Dominic also likes to switch on the lights and other gadgets in the car. It flattens the car battery and I scold him about that but I never smack hit him about that because its not dangerous.

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Dr Strangelove


Errr.... There are places in the US where "thumping" a female probably doesn't mean what you mean. Or not.

Thumping in the UK means punching with a closed fist.