"Let's just be friends"

[Solly]

I guess my point is be patient, something will happen.

That advice isn't suitable for everyone.

If Stefu is the kind of guy who tends not to make a move for girls he likes (ie, if this was a one-off), this kind of advice can seriously harm.

Just sitting around on Apolyton thinking "oh well, if I'm patient something will happen sooner or later" is not going to work. Proactivity should be recommended - get out there and get flirting!

[Urban Ranger]

That won't work, since women can smell desperate men from 8/5 km (that's a mile) away.

At any rate, it's just that you think you're taking the initiative when in fact you're just responding to women's non-verbal cues.

[Alynzia]

"Let's just be friends" = Hey, you're really nice to talk to but there is not a f**king chance in h*ll I will ever ever ever ever ever want to sh*g you.

(at least in my terminology)

Alynzia

[Drekkus]

Originally posted by Alynzia
"Let's just be friends" = Hey, you're really nice to talk to but there is not a f**king chance in h*ll I will ever ever ever ever ever want to sh*g you.

(at least in my terminology)

Alynzia

Never say never (or in your case 'ever ever ever ever'). I've seen girls turn 180 degrees because 'he tried so hard', 'he's really sweet' etc. Which really means: I have nothing better to sh*g, so I will take advantage of this guy until something better comes along.
So hang in there, nice guys, you just might get lucky!

[Roland]

"Which really means: I have nothing better to sh*g, so I will take advantage of this guy until something better comes along."

Or until somewhere between 25-35, the biological alarm clock starts ringing...

[Drekkus]

Originally posted by Roland
Or until somewhere between 25-35, the biological alarm clock starts ringing...

So I restate: Hang in there, 18 year old nice guys. In about 10 years time you'll get lucky!

[Roland]

THANK HEAVEN I'M 31!

[Solly]

[lightblue]

Originally posted by Alynzia
"Let's just be friends" = Hey, you're really nice to talk to but there is not a f**king chance in h*ll I will ever ever ever ever ever want to sh*g you.

(at least in my terminology)

Alynzia

Similar to when I tell a girl that I'll give her a call sometime.

[lightblue]

Oh and Stefu, you just have to think that there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you're not having much success, try aiming a bit lower and then slowly work your way up once your confidence increases.
It is extremely unlikely that you're going to meet the love of your life in school, so you might as well enjoy what is available, instead of fixating on the unattainable (trust me, I speak from experience).

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Originally posted by lightblue
If you're not having much success, try aiming a bit lower and then slowly work your way up once your confidence increases.

If you find yourself trying to chat up something thazt chews cud, you're aiming too low.

[Sirotnikov]

THis thread is great :B:

Both humorous (due to the funposts) and enlightening (due to rational advice).

Thanks people, for sharing.

[MichaeltheGreat]

It's all a matter of perspective.

For the male unsuccessful in his pursuit, the four worst words are: "Let's just be friends."

For the male who was successful in his pursuit, or for the female, the four worst words are: "I missed my period."

About the only thing you can do about the actual or pseudo-rejection thing is wade into and embrace it. By the time you're done, you'll have heard about every form of it there is.

As long as you don't let it take you down the wallow in self-pity, whiny, neurotic road, eventually your luck will change, often spectacularly. So just hang in there, and keep getting rejected.

[Guynemer]

I couldn't even begin to count all the times I heard "let's just be friends" or some variation thereof. My personal favorite was when the girl I had had a crush on for 10 years said, "You're charming in a completely nonsexual sort of way." Yahoo!

But remember the lesson of the Austrailian short-track speedskater--dammit, NEVER GIVE UP. You get right back on the saddle, and ask out some other dame.

Now, I'm engaged.

[MichaeltheGreat]

Originally posted by Guynemer
My personal favorite was when the girl I had had a crush on for 10 years said, "You're charming in a completely nonsexual sort of way." Yahoo!

OUCH!!!!! That is really cold.