Dating another "race"

[Q Classic]

Well there seems to be a good number of asian men with a white girl fetish (have heard stories of hagwon bosses who only hire women and then sexually harass them) but for a lot of reasons (including there being a good chunk of guys with an asian girl fetish) male whities outnumber female whities by a good margin and a lot of the white girls are here with their boyfriends. Well I guess there's always the russian strippers (who wouldn't be here in such numbers if it wasn't for a pretty widespread bit of white girl fetish)...

i will also admit that when i first started dating my current gf, i didn't think too much about these racial politics. it wasn't until about a two years into the relationship, after we'd gotten some funny looks (we're in the south~ go fig), that i started to wonder if i myself had bought into the (white + blond) == attractive rubric that seems to plague a lot of minorities.

now, three more years into the relationship after that point, i'm quite certain that i haven't; especially because i was awfully tempted once to stray -- with another asian.

i suppose that's a common occurence with those in ir relationships? or i am i just odd in this respect?

ali, you can make him take piano lessons, i'm sure.

[monolith94]

Che - the way I imagine you, you're a total candidate for Queer Eye on the Straight Guy...

[Drake Tungsten]

If only I could be the "queer eye"! Woowoo!

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by monolith94
Che - the way I imagine you, you're a total candidate for Queer Eye on the Straight Guy...

Bunnygrrl would be so happy.

[chequita guevara]

Originally posted by Q Cubed
i will also admit that when i first started dating my current gf, i didn't think too much about these racial politics

A friend of Bunnygrrl's from high school is an Indonesian. His white girlfriend (whom no one liked) always used to call him her "little china doll."

Another dude she met later had yellow fever bad. His gf was Asian, and his pet name for her was "Chink."

[Drake Tungsten]

His gf was Asian, and his pet name for her was "Chink."

Aww, that's sweet.

[Az]

that's disgusting.

[Q Classic]

i think you missed the sarcasm there, az.

A friend of Bunnygrrl's from high school is an Indonesian. His white girlfriend (whom no one liked) always used to call him her "little china doll."

Another dude she met later had yellow fever bad. His gf was Asian, and his pet name for her was "Chink."

thankfully, my gf has never done that. she's colorblind (both in terms of race, and she's red-green), and for that i'm very lucky.

[Drake Tungsten]

i think you missed the sarcasm there, az.

I sure hope so. I remember lacing that post with sarcasm, so I hope it didn't slip off somewhere.

[Q Classic]

maybe he was referring not to your post, but to that practice.

yes, that's what i'll believe.

jeez. "chink"? would the kids have been "slopes"?

[Az]

Q^3 speaks the truth.

[Drake Tungsten]

Or so you claim...

[Lancer]

Ben, I've focused on real life, and so there hasn't been as much time. Still, I've managed to drop by now and again, thanks for asking pal.

Che, exactly. Alot of white guys give up on white women. Society, through stuff like the soaps, teach them if they want a thrill, cheat. Also, that love can be evidenced by the price of a diamond or the size of a new car. Since after they get the car and the diamond, they still want a thrill... Anyway, it sickens me. Thank God I'm free of it. My wife is a friend and companion, as well as the love of my life. I'm so glad that the 'war of the sexes' is behind me. Contentious relationships suck. So, yes, so many have given up, many more will.

[Lancer]

"It's the parents in law isn't it?"





No Q, my mother in law passed away when Dolores was 20. It was tough for her in that time, alot of sorrow and suffering...hunger. My father in law we brought over, going through the whole INS process once again. Great guy, he sacrificed everything so his kids got a college education. We're great friends, I honor him.

Nice guess though, funny.

[Saint Marcus]

why do asian fetishists disturb me? have you ever stumbled across one of those websites?
surely that question doesn't need a further answer?

how 'bout this? it perpetuates the myth that asian women--and by extension, asians in general--are "weak", demure, quiet, submissive, and/or kinky.
you have the madame butterfly/miss saigon, a submissive whore ready to be used and abused by a strong man, because asian men are deemed to be weak, sexless and neutered.
or you have the dragon lady, a nasty kinky woman who'll do anything and everything to a man, because asians in general are exotic, inscrutable, and dirty heathens unbound by good christian morals.
but hey, maybe i'm reading too much in racial politics into this.

maybe it could be the fact that they're really not treating the girl fairly--how will she ever know if they like her for who she is, or because she's more svelte, 'delicate' (i.e., smaller hips/chest usw.), has less hair, and fits their nastiest erotic fantasies with an exotic beauty?

why wouldn't asian fetishists disturb me?

how do you feel about african men fetishists? you know the stereotypes; dark skinned, muscular, well hung. any worse / less worse than asian fetishists?