To love or to lost...

[Guest]

Let's get to some deep philosophy (or at least some marginally pseudo-intellectual drival)... is it better to have loved or to have lost?

[Dinner]

I was a stupid teenager. I can' believe the number of times girls hinted at or out right told me they were interested in me but I was such a stupid SOB that I didn't pick up on it until it was much to late.

[Asher]

is it better to have loved or to have lost?

This is a nobrainer, but I think you meant something else.

[Dinner]

There are a tremendous number of kids like I was who just don't figue out a girl wants to **** them until it is to late.

[brady13]

Yeah, the horribly self-humiliating experience of thinking a girl liked you, but she didn't, really sucks. But what I'm wondering is the kind of experience where you really let your guard down and invite a girl to run wild through the field of your emotions (not that I've been scarred or anything... heh). Where she really means it, but then after a while... doesn't. I'm just wondering how people get over it, and reclaim that naive romantic notion of something greater than yourself. Or am I just being a foolish romantic?

[Dinner]

Only twice have I 100% letmy guard down but on several other occaions I've not picked up upomn the signals which girls have sent out until well after those signals just didn't matter any more. I mean really I must have been a stupid **** or something.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Originally posted by brady13
I'm just wondering how people get over it, and reclaim that naive romantic notion of something greater than yourself.

Easy. Just trust your nuts.

[Bosh]

Oerdin: same here, am completely hopeless at telling when people like me. I'm usually so bad that most recently the poor girl had to resort to telling me to kiss her...

[Q Classic]

isn't it supposed be something like "better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"?

i mean, the way it's phrased now, i don't think anybody would really be in favor of "lost"... most people seem to enjoy "love", so...

[Urban Ranger]

Of course it's better to have loved and lost. Consider that as one of life's defeats, from which you can learn for a better fight next time.

[Japher]

I'm just wondering how people get over it, and reclaim that naive romantic notion of something greater than yourself. Or am I just being a foolish romantic?

What do you mean get over it?

You never really will get over it. The best thing to do is be yourself and to be comfortable enough with yourself that it doesn't matter to you whether there is a SO in it or not...

Se la Vive (how do you spell that?)

[st_swithin]

C'est la vie.

The worst is thinking some really cute guy is looking at you, but he's really looking at his own reflection in the mirror behind you.

Or at the cute girl standing right behind you.

Or at the tree behind you, and hasn't even noticed you.

But I'm not insecure, or anything. I'm just a realist. ;p

[Q Classic]

i suppose it might be better to love and lose than to never love at all.

but don't we all abhor pain? to love and lose would create oodles of pain, while to never love would keep you in a state of ignorant bliss...

[Japher]

while to never love would keep you in a state of ignorant bliss...

Tell that to an old maid who is so lonely that she has to get 15 cats to keep her company. I think it is worth the chance of pain to attempt love. Besides, no matter the outcome they are both reasons to drink

[Q Classic]

Tell that to an old maid who is so lonely that she has to get 15 cats to keep her company. I think it is worth the chance of pain to attempt love.

yes, i was just tossing that out; i don't really believe in that. however, i don't plan on losing.