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    Weds. night I went out with some friends to the "A Taste of San Diego" event which was really just a tour of a bunch of the best restaurants in downtown San Diego. You pay $20 and then you get to sample the signature dishes at 40 of the city's top restaurants. Any way my friend's and I were having a great time eating food and downing drinks while roaming the city streets when who should I run into but my ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend.

    At first when I saw her in La Gran Tapa (a Spanish restaurant) I didn't know what to do so I decided to just pretend I didn't see her. I even ended up going out side just so I could keep up the act which is childish I know but after going through a two year on again off again relationship with her (which ended for the last time 6 months ago) I really felt ackward about talking to her and meeting her new boyfriend. So any way she eventually spots me and comes over with her b/f to say hi.

    Damn, I really missed her and I thought I was totally over her, which makes it even worse. I of course wasn't going to let her know that but I have to admit she looked really good. Christine was always a runner but it looks like she'd lost a bit of weight and toned up where as I'd put on a good 15 pounds. To top it off she'd gotten a big raise at work (she just finished her MBA last June) and the new boyfriend actually seemed like a really nice guy though he seemed a good 6-8 years older then her.

    She asked me what I was doing in San Diego and how my job in Sacramento was going and I didn't have the balls to tell her I had lost my job. I instead lied and said I was on vacation and the job was going great. Wasn't that shallow of me? I guess I just couldn't admit to her she had progressed much further then me over the last half year. That doesn't even mention how I only had one six week long relationship since Christine and I broke up for the last time, which totally ended up being a drag.

    So does anyone else have stories about meeting the ex after you broke up? Did it feel as ackward for you as it did for me? I mean here's someone whom I really honestly thought I was going to marry and who said she felt the same way but now I'm supposed to smile and pretend I like her new boyfriend? Looking back I realize we had a dysfunctional relationship (that's why we broke up so much) and I do want her to be happy but man it got under my skin to see her with another man (especially one so much older). Somebody tell me his or her relationship stories so I can commiserate with you.
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  • #2
    I was disappointed to discover this thread wasn't about running into an ex with your car....

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    • #3
      Who knows if many here have an ex to run into....
      Blah

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      • #4
        I posted the tale a while ago of my spectacular run-in with my ex in a bar...
        Tutto nel mondo è burla

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        • #5
          Yeah, I remember that Boris. That guy was an A-hole and a coward for just walking out and not even bothering to say anything to you.
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          • #6
            Who knows if many here have an ex to run into....


            I do, but the odds of running into them here is pretty slim, to say the least.
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            • #7
              Long before that, I had another run-in with an ex that was kinda funny. This was the first guy I had dated after moving to New York. We had irreconcilable differences, so parted ways. It wasn't a nasty breakup, but it was kind of like neither party having an interest in seeing the other again.

              About 4-5 months after that, I went to a coffee shop in Chelsea that's popular with the gay crowd with my friend Matt. Matt is my best gay friend, and he's also really gorgeous. Anyway, we left to go see a movie, and outside the shop ran into my ex. I said hello and gave him a hug, and introduced Matt. It didn't click with me at first, but my ex seemed to be acting really strange, and kept complimenting me on how I looked. I explained that Matt and I were off to see a movie, and we left.

              The next day, my ex left me a message asking if I wanted to get together for dinner or something, saying he had "missed" me. I was a little perplexed, since we had had literally no contact at all since breaking up, and it wasn't as if he made an effort. Then it clicked--he assumed Matt and I were dating, and was probably jealous at how hot Matt was... hehehe!
              Tutto nel mondo è burla

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              • #8
                Well, at least you were able to get your ex jealous. I think I was the only one who was jealous when I ran into my ex. You see we kept doing this whole stupid break up and get back together thing because I was away for work or school or because she didn't have spare time because of work or school. Also she was older and her friends didn't approve of Christine dating a younger guy so occationally we'd get into fights and break up because so and so said she could do so much better then me, blah, blah, blah..

                Any way usually a couple of weeks or even a month or two would pass and then one of us (normally me but not always) would send an e-mail to the other and we'd end up going out for lunch then it would just seem so natural for us to get back together again. In the beginning I was half expecting us to do the same this time but after a few months I gave up the ghost and decided to move on.

                Now seeing her has brought it back but it seems she really has moved on and has moved up. I know I should just find another girlfriend but sometimes moving on is easier said then done.
                Last edited by Dinner; September 18, 2003, 08:55.
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                • #9
                  I was engaged to be married about 25 years ago and she decded to marry my room mate instead. Then they invited me to their wedding. The whole thing was a nightmare for me that lasted a couple of years. Each time I saw them it was like my heart was being ripped to shreds again. Eventually I approached them both at a social function and gave her and him a very sincere hug and a few words of encouragement. I guess I just grew up and got over it.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Lincoln
                    I was engaged to be married about 25 years ago and she decded to marry my room mate instead.
                    ****ing A... Now if that isn't a raw deal then I don't know what is.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Boris Godunov
                      I posted the tale a while ago of my spectacular run-in with my ex in a bar...
                      Wheres the link? I dont feel like working (writing) yet and I could do with a laugh.
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                      • #12
                        Edit: nevermind.
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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Lincoln
                          I guess I...got over it.
                          Did ya?

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                          • #14
                            Oerdin, you gotta be totally brass when you run into an ex. Look her right in the eye and smile.

                            When did you lose your job? What gives?

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                            • #15
                              1.5 weeks ago. I made a thread about it.

                              BTW I tried to be totally I'm brass and not let anything show but as soon as my mates and I left the restaurant I started to think about things. Nothing good comes from this and it's stupid but still...
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