1st Date Ideas

[MikeH]

He wants me.

[rah]

Originally posted by *End Is Forever*
One has to wonder why Stewart made this hypothetical thread...

He ran out of interesting ideas for his obligitory two threads today. His ideas were so bad that he even used the same idea for his second thread. (which has just been deleted)

[The diplomat]

movies are usually a bad idea. You spend the entire time staring at a screen without talking to each other. Furthermore, if the girl likes the movie, then you'll have some stuff to talk about afterwards, but if the gilr hated the movie, then she will be turned off.

mini golf, bowling, picnic, amusement park, pool, tennis, are all good ideas. If you already know the girl a bit, then pay attention to hints she may drop about the kind of things she loves. If you do something that you know she likes, the date will go much better.

[Gibsie]

Sex maybe?

But really, movies aren't so bad as long as they're not the first or only thing you do. Contrary to popular belief, you DON'T have to spend every second squawking at each other for a date to be successful; just being in each other's company can be nice.

[Flubber]

A first date should be easy if you have the faintest clue about what your date likes. Pick some activity that you KNOW she has enjoyed in the past and that you like as well.

This shows you cared enough to find out and also ensures she will enjoy the activity part of the date. Its always easier to talk to a woman that is already having a good time.

Examples: Hike, bike, rollerblade, amusement park, concert, bowling, pool,mini-golf, zoo etc.

All of these can be fun, can provide changing topics of conversation if there are lags and provide breaks when you are doing the activity


My views on other first date choices

Movie-- good in that you get a long stretch near them but bad in that you can hardly learn anything about them-- If the movie sucks . . . .

Dinner-- can be a very intense date since there is literally nothing to do but make converstaion in a static environment until the food comes-- its very good to learn a lot about a person in a short time but it does not have the lighthearted moments and many natural activity interuptions of an activity date. It is also of a somewhat fixed duration-- I think of dinner as a date when I know that I like the person and want to learn a lot

Coffee/drink -- much like a dinner but with the blessing of being as long or as short as you wish.

Walk (ie in the park)-- has the benefits of other activity dates except that the activity doesn't provide breaks n the converstation

I'll repeat that the main thing is to pick an activity that she is interested in . KNowing that is half the battle.

[FrustratedPoet]

If the movie sucks . . . .

..... she probably won't.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by FrustratedPoet

If the movie sucks . . . .

..... she probably won't.

whats funny is that I thought that after typing that line but decided against adding that conclusion

[MikeH]

I'm much better in a static sitting around talking environment than a doing stuff environment. Mainly because I'm a good listener, funny, and interesting which makes talking easy and makes me look good but I'm also a bumbling uncoordinated idiot which makes activity type dates make me look bad.

[Gibsie]

If the movie sucks you find other things to do, assuming you have the barest of attractions for each other.

[MikeH]

I think movies are the worst date idea ever.

[Pekka]

Originally posted by Japher


Sounds like Pekka

You know me!

Oh well.. so you don't want to spend too much money, so amusement parks are out. Though I don't know if there are any near you so.. but getting tickets to something can be considered as not cheap, because then you naturally have to pay for other things as well.

Is there any beautiful places near you? Like you could go bicycling, take some food with you and do a picnic in some quiet, remote and breathtaking place. It's cheap, allows you contact, but I don't know if it's fun or short.
Would be awesome if it had a small pond that you could jump in and swim.. that gives you the possibility of checking her out *wink wink*.... and you can play those water things like lifting her up 'wuuuu here we goooooo.. ' and that's when you get to feel her out too! YEAH! But all this could be too much work.

Just go mudwrestling with her. Easy, FUN, cheap and short. Definitely allows you to contact. You might want to videotape this. Secretly. She might object this if you ask, so don't ask.

[Pekka]

And I already got your 2nd date covered. Make adventure day for her. Chicks love that stuff! You can show off all the time 'yeah I'm gonna climb this now, check out my abs baby' and be all you can be. You bond nicely doing adventure stuff, and you can plan surprises along the way...

Then you can turn the romantic side on, but keep it fun.. do chick stuff, but covered in adventure man thing. For example... you find a secret place, go there and plant some nice things like... I don't know a little snack maybe? and then BODYPAINTING! They love it! You can massage her right there, learn some fancy massaging stuff, and then you can bodypaint each other. Adventure stuff! Oh I wish someone would make me adventure date..

[self biased]

Floyd, you and i have gone out before. it wouldn't be our first date. **wink** one thing that i've always liked was going out into saratoga on broadway or lark street in albany, and people watch. or if she's a kind of performer, put on some street theatre.

[Pekka]

Or you can play Delta Force: Black Hawk Down, she watching next to you. She'll be scared all the time and grabbing you, and you'll be a real man shooting enemies. After that, sex is guaranteed.

Or you can show her what forums you frequent.

Nah, seriously though, action date!

[Japher]

Video Arcade!!! You can deny her your true self for long