MARRIAGE: The ruination of woman?

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by st_swithin
I'm NOT (ABSOLUTELY NOT, WHETHER YOU WANT TO BELIEVE IT OR NOT), but since most guys are bigger than me, I don't trust them not to beat me.

In fact, I'm finding that men do that to me pretty much any time I let them anywhere near me, either mentally or physically.

Mentally, I really just can't take no more. Two serious suicide attempts were enough for me, thanks.

Physically, well, I can take most girls on, no problem, but most guys, as I said, both outweigh and outheight me.

I'm not a gambling person - I'd rather take a safe bet than double down on a possible blackjack.

I more than willing to beleive you, your post (and one other) just seemed to suggest it (And so I wondered)

wtf is up with people beating on you (emotionally or physically)

it sounds more like you found some pretty ****y people rather than something about you requires guys to pick on you

(I can understand you wanting to take a break though)

I know a lot (well, not a ton, but a decent ammount) of really really nice guys who would not hurt anyone

and from what I have seen, there are just as many ****y women out there as guys

and women can be physically mean also

Jon Miller

[st_swithin]

That's one way of putting it, I suppose.

I guess I had what's called a 'starter marriage,' but I consider it more a 'starter life.'

At least I already fvcked up as badly as I possibly can. It can only get better from here, right?

[Jon Miller]

yah, hopefully

suicide is bad and I don't think is ever the best answer, even though sometimes it seems like it is

taking it easy for a while and just being with people who are really positive would probably be a good thing (or alone works some too, especialyl if you don't know anyone really positive)

Jon Miller

[Jon Miller]

sorry if I sound a bit harsh

I am not always the most smooth

Jon Miller

[st_swithin]

Originally posted by Cruddy
The grass is always greener. I thought London was amazing when I first moved there. After 5 years wild horses wouldn't drag me back.
Scouser?

Hey, you should check out this movie that's supposedly coming out sometime in 2004 - it's called 'Fear Itself' - sounds like you could relate.

Don't know why I noticed the similarity just now. I seem to be noticing all sorts of weird things these days.

[Zylka]

Originally posted by st_swithin
That's one way of putting it, I suppose.

I guess I had what's called a 'starter marriage,' but I consider it more a 'starter life.'

At least I already fvcked up as badly as I possibly can. It can only get better from here, right?

It doesn't sound as if you were the one doing the up f*cking. Even so, most people go through selfish phases - so if you believe you did, so what? And if you didn't - good for you

It WILL only get better from here - cuz you deserve it! Cheer up, doll

[st_swithin]

WHEW!! That's a relief, because I was really, really, REALLY starting to worry.

I was pretty sure that this handbasket I'm didn't have a return fare.

[Zylka]

hey

[st_swithin]

is for horses and cows like Jennifer Lopez, right?

[Zylka]

wh

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by st_swithin
WHEW!! That's a relief, because I was really, really, REALLY starting to worry.

I was pretty sure that this handbasket I'm didn't have a return fare.

it does

and I like you being on apolyton, and if you stopped posting I would miss your posts

I am sure that your RL will get better too, often times those who feel down can't see the way out, but it is there

Jon Miller

[st_swithin]

Zylka - are you ok? You seem to be having trouble with your voice rec sw.

[Sikander]

Originally posted by st_swithin
Sikander: you let your gf chase your friends off? You must think an awful lot of your gf's opinions to decide that you don't need a friend's advice.

Either that, or you're really whipped. But if you're happy whipped, like Cool Whip, then more power to her!

My GF was the new girl in my life at the time, and she was probably correct in seeing that Darci and I were a little too close for comfort. Darci was married to a good friend of mine, but they were having trouble and broke up not too long after I started seeing my GF. I was too open to persuasion vis a vis Darci at the time and knew that it would be easy to get with her while she was on the rebound, but very difficult to maintain a relationship with her under those circumstances, not to mention maintaining a relationship with my GF. As we have been together for more than 5 years since that time, I think things have worked out fine.

I gave my GF a lot of hell about her behavior at the time, and to her credit she hasn't had another sh!t fit about any of my other female friends, who mostly happen to be a lot younger than my GF (and me for that matter) and gorgeous. So she has some ability to trust me and restrain herself. If she didn't I would have given her the boot years ago, as I do need my friends to get by.

So I guess that makes me cool whipped. I'm cool with it for now, and even if we were to break up I wouldn't regret having had this relationship or forgoing those relationships that I would or might have had in its stead.

[st_swithin]

You're just lucky neither were pathological liars, which in my case, causes me to place an ENORMOUS wall between me and the rest of humanity.

"A deserted island is just solitary confinement in prison without the walls." -Fozzie the Bear

[Zylka]

How about a medicinal back-rub?

-Doc