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I have changed several times to help rid myself of certain undesirable behavior traits, each time required life changes not just a conscience desire to change. IMO, you can't have a major behavior change without a lifestyle change.
One reason is that we are ingrained in our ways, if it is easy to revert to our old selves than we will. So, make it hard.
Another reason is that we become the company we keep. If you are hanging around or are with people who are behaving in a fashion that you are trying to prevent than chances are you will not change.
With that in mind I feel group therapy is horrible, because you are now around those you don't want to be like. If you want to be less angry place yourself where people are less angry; church for example. Church has helped me overcome a lot of negative feelings and helped me to focus on what is important to me in life and has given me direction. Prior to that the desire to have kids got me to quit smoking and made me move so that we could permit my wife to stay home and raise the kids, which has motivated me even more in to furthering my education. Before that my lack of success and dedication to become successful, career wise, lead me to give up smoking weed and with it a lot of 'friends'. It's all for the better, at least it has been so far.
Maybe it's part of growing up or becoming wiser. That as we realize what is more important we are willing to give up more. Give up drugs, addictions, anger, lusts, freedoms in order to pursue and obtain what is more important. "Give up" is a bad word, a better way to look at it would be sacrifice. Sacrifice anger to be happier, sacrifice addictions to achieve, and sacrifice freedoms so that others might have options. This all makes perfect sense from the other side and will to anyone who makes these choices, except for Ben of course, he's to stupid to realize anything
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One reason is that we are ingrained in our ways, if it is easy to revert to our old selves than we will. So, make it hard.
Another reason is that we become the company we keep. If you are hanging around or are with people who are behaving in a fashion that you are trying to prevent than chances are you will not change.
With that in mind I feel group therapy is horrible, because you are now around those you don't want to be like. If you want to be less angry place yourself where people are less angry; church for example. Church has helped me overcome a lot of negative feelings and helped me to focus on what is important to me in life and has given me direction. Prior to that the desire to have kids got me to quit smoking and made me move so that we could permit my wife to stay home and raise the kids, which has motivated me even more in to furthering my education. Before that my lack of success and dedication to become successful, career wise, lead me to give up smoking weed and with it a lot of 'friends'. It's all for the better, at least it has been so far.
Maybe it's part of growing up or becoming wiser. That as we realize what is more important we are willing to give up more. Give up drugs, addictions, anger, lusts, freedoms in order to pursue and obtain what is more important. "Give up" is a bad word, a better way to look at it would be sacrifice. Sacrifice anger to be happier, sacrifice addictions to achieve, and sacrifice freedoms so that others might have options. This all makes perfect sense from the other side and will to anyone who makes these choices, except for Ben of course, he's to stupid to realize anything
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