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    Wish me luck!

    So I've got either good news or not so good news.

    I did something unthinkable and asked my friend if she'd see us dating or just be friends. The thing is, I really like her a lot. She is single, I am single. We've also spent quite a lot of tiem together, lately. She's awesome, we both hike, love the same books, etc. She is outrageously hot, in a very unique way (meaning I find her very hot). Now, this weekend we went to see a movie (done it a lot with her), and we went to her place afterwards. Out of the blue, she just started to show some sexy things from her closet with "I wanted to show you something, they remind me of you", and then what was supposed to be a water bottle refill and bathroom turned into a few hour discussion of things. I think, she wanted me to go for it. But she is a friend, so I did not. After all, it was 2AM and she had invited me to her place. I am saying I am not a *****. As I left, I felt bad. Maybe she felt shut down. That, plus I am into her. So I messaged her saying sorry that I left, and that I really wanted to stay. We went to a gig the next day but it was so loud I couldn't bring it up again. So I did the unthinkable and _emailed_ her. I continued the chat we started, gave my views and just said I find her very interesting and would definitely date her if she'd see us dating, but if not, I'd love to remain friends too. Just openly saying how I felt about it.

    She got back to me the next day, and has been messaging to me. I felt OK, maybe she hasn't read it, but I won't push it. She's been sending me quite normal messages the whole day. I like it, I usually don't msg with people unless I have something to actually say. Not the kinds of "**** its raining, how's your day going?". With her though, I do that, and she does it back. Now, she's off to watching GoT, and just let me know she'll be replying to my email later. I'm biting my nails off! So that's a risk that I just took, but it might work out. Let's hope so.

    So yay, good luck to me. She's very nonchalant and natural about things, so she can handle herself for sure. Point being, as I've been single for quite a while, it would be a nice change to date again, and being a bit picky and weird, she would be a good person to date. Highly intelligent. Rare.

    In da butt.
    "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
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    Life is short. Carpe diem.
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    • Pekka
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      Pekka commented
      August 7, 2017, 14:53
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      Exactly!

      I've new found confidence; I've been ranting in therapy how it woudl suck if the doctors suddenly told me I was cured. Of course I want that. But... I'd be pissed off, "why did I pause my life for all those years?". Ahhh. No reason to wait for that call, I should just do what I want, regardless of the possible outcomes, say rejection. This would be something I'd regret, not even asking. She's my friend and intelligent, so I am so sure she'll say no, sorry, if that's the case. THe way I see it, only good outcomes will happen. Even then, at least she can trust I speak my mind openly. I am not romantically attached to her, as in I have no feelings of that nature. My heart will not be broken. However, I can see developing strong feelings for her, should we date and things would go well. But for that, we'd need to date and allow ourselves to explore that avenue. I don't think it'll ruin our friendship. I feel good with her, because she is like me, a bit off, in a good way, she's tall and walks FAST, I think she is very misunderstood in general and very interesting. I wouldn't say I see her as my lifelong partner, but I'd love to try dating. As we're still friends, we could just see and go "OK, not working dude..." and call it off, no hearts broken.

      edit: And I've been *****ing how I am single and would like to find someone. My therapist asked well, have you tried new hobbies, or people in your current hobbies? Maybe someone interesting there... or... of you have single friends? Or friends who could refer you to their single friends? Got thinking, and yes, one friend matches really well on paper. I'd love to go back to my therapist and say hey, even though I know you have fallen in love with me, I have to say sorry, I am no longer single.
  • #3
    Everyone on the planet lives under a death sentence each day.
    Enjoy life while you can. That's all anybody can do.
    It's almost as if all his overconfident, absolutist assertions were spoonfed to him by a trusted website or subreddit. Sheeple
    RIP Tony Bogey & Baron O
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    • #4
      Good luck to you.
      “It is no use trying to 'see through' first principles. If you see through everything, then everything is transparent. But a wholly transparent world is an invisible world. To 'see through' all things is the same as not to see.”

      ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man​

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        • #6
          ZYLKA!!
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          "We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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          • #7
            Oh well... no reply yet. She did message me that she will reply soon(ish). I've no idea what to make of this; if it was a clear "no", I'm sure it would've been already sent. She is emailing me.

            We are both a bit of complicated (and therefore a good match). And she's been in contact daily ever since without skipping a beat. So maybe she continues to be friends. who knows, I don't. Hopefully she will agree to be my GF soon, or at least make her intentions known. I think it won't be a resounding yes. Which is OK. Suck level 25 %.
            In da butt.
            "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
            THE UNDEFEATED SUPERCITIZEN w:4 t:2 l:1 (DON'T ASK!)
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            • #8
              Most likely one of the following: she is not interested in being a GF but wants to remain friends, or she is not interested in being a GF but wants to have sex.
              “It is no use trying to 'see through' first principles. If you see through everything, then everything is transparent. But a wholly transparent world is an invisible world. To 'see through' all things is the same as not to see.”

              ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man​

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              • #9
                Originally posted by pchang View Post
                Most likely one of the following: she is not interested in being a GF but wants to remain friends, or she is not interested in being a GF but wants to have sex.
                I think this is correct.

                She is not the dating kind in general. She's very attractive and intelligent, yet single. And has been for a long while; it's her choice basically.

                Anyway, the sex part was not totally out of the question, and I thought she'd be into me dating wise exactly because she started to talk to me how she thinks about me when she looks at her flogger, which she showed me. So... maybe that's mostly it. Too bad though, I'd lake to date, too.
                In da butt.
                "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
                THE UNDEFEATED SUPERCITIZEN w:4 t:2 l:1 (DON'T ASK!)
                "God is dead" - Nietzsche. "Nietzsche is dead" - God.

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                • #10
                  Flogger? Do you know any regular women?
                  “It is no use trying to 'see through' first principles. If you see through everything, then everything is transparent. But a wholly transparent world is an invisible world. To 'see through' all things is the same as not to see.”

                  ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man​

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                  • #11
                    Originally posted by pchang View Post
                    Flogger? Do you know any regular women?


                    Keep on Civin'
                    RIP rah, Tony Bogey & Baron O

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                    • #12
                      I didn't know Pekka was into BDSM. You kinky boy.
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                      • #13
                        Clearly you haven't been reading Pekka's threads as of late.
                        “It is no use trying to 'see through' first principles. If you see through everything, then everything is transparent. But a wholly transparent world is an invisible world. To 'see through' all things is the same as not to see.”

                        ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man​

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                        • #14
                          Well, she won't date me, but she continues to be my friend. As for me, I don't want to have sex without a relationship. I think, for me, it's not healthy anymore. I only flog the ones I love.

                          Too bad. Wasn't too weird, fortunately. We still hang out a lot, and she's cool. A bit strange, but I like strange. In short: no love for yours truly, have to keep on hoping for Mrs. Right.
                          In da butt.
                          "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
                          THE UNDEFEATED SUPERCITIZEN w:4 t:2 l:1 (DON'T ASK!)
                          "God is dead" - Nietzsche. "Nietzsche is dead" - God.

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                          • #15
                            Originally posted by Pekka View Post
                            Too bad. Wasn't too weird, fortunately. We still hang out a lot, and she's cool. A bit strange, but I like strange. In short: no love for yours truly, have to keep on hoping for Mrs. Right.
                            I hope you find her one day Pekka. Sometimes amazing things happen in life out of nowhere.
                            The Wizard of AAHZ

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