Why do women run away?

[MOBIUS]

Why? Because I'm a socialist?

What sort of shift in demeanor, Mobius? And what do you mean Joeyesque "How you doin'..."? I'm trying to learn. I think I fundamentally don't know how to talk to women.

Well, clearly they seem to like you or at least aren't repulsed by you to begin with. So whatever you're doing up until the point you realise/think they might be interested in you is fine. Suddenly, however, once you make a move, everything goes tits up (or not, in your case!). So there must be some kind of major shift in your demeanour at that point that seems to instantly repel them from you.

So, the good news is 'being yourself' appears to already be attractive to women, it's just that whatever Jekyll and Hyde persona you then take on when you get a scent is clearly the wrong one.

Take a look in the mirror and how you act, and imagine what a girl could fine attractive in that. If you're being Mr Manly 'I'm joining the Marines' and then suddenly come across completely different, whatever attracted them seems to disappear. The opposite holds true if you're a nice guy and then suddenly start boring the crap out of them about your gym routines and flexing in front of them, or whatever.

Be yourself.

[Elok]

"Be yourself" is generally the best advice one can give in this situation, actually. Not because you're a special and wonderful person and blah blah blah, but because I assume you're looking for something to build a relationship on, and if the relationship's built on you pretending, you're going to get real sick of pretending, real fast. If she doesn't like you being yourself, move on.

Now, if you're going the DF club-predator route, none of that applies, and I can't (won't) help you. But I assume not.

[self biased]

if being himself got him laid, he'd have done it years ago. i think the only gina he's interested in is Hairy Mangina.

[Elok]

Well, he gives off a strong gay-vibe here, but he might be different IRL. Anyway, that first sentence doesn't necessarily follow. He probably isn't acting at all natural with women.

[Provost Harrison]

Why is it that if you express any interest in women, they run away? This occurs 90% of the time but I'm posting this because of a more recent example where the expression of interest back in July led her to stop calling me/not answer my calls or texts. Go figure that a woman who would call me daily and kept making comments about how good I look, would act like that. I checked on her a few times in the months since then but she never responded. And today, I see that she unfriended me on facebook.

Months after the presumed initial disgust, even. I seriously did nothing weird. When she said she wasn't interested, I went all yeah let's just be friends and sent her a text not even once a month to see how she was and yet, her behavior exists. Really, feel the need to ignore me and unfriend me on facebook, even?

What's up with these females?

I'm sorry man, but it would appear you're a fugly

But welcome to the mystical world of women. Can't live with them...actually I will just leave it at that...

[Elok]

I've been living with (one of) them for over a year now. It's going pretty well, we hold each other together through the tough times. Of course, being a stranger like myself, her thought patterns are closer to a man's and therefore easier to follow. And she has never done that "If you don't know what I'm angry about, I won't tell you" thing everyone says all women do. If Al could stop being a douche about Asperger's he just might find a woman he can relate to...

[Meticulous Man]

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[OneFootInTheGrave]

but they also go for everything else with lesser qualifications. Amen to that.

[rah]

But alas, similar to most men figuring out that they're not going to land the super model, and learn to settle for less. Most non super models figure this one out sooner and will settle for a decent looking guy that's not poor and makes them laugh. Don't do the things that eliminate you from that pool. (keeping your mouth shut usually eliminates most of those typical mistakes)

[BlackCat]

Well, he gives off a strong gay-vibe here, but he might be different IRL. Anyway, that first sentence doesn't necessarily follow. He probably isn't acting at all natural with women.

I think this is Al's problem. All those women that befriends him think he is gay - he acts, talks and look that way. When they find out that he isn't, they panic and run away because while he is fine as a gay friend, they
don't want to know him as a hetero.

The fun stuff is that there may have been one or two women that could have accepted him as hetero, but didn't want to know him since he obvious was gay

[DaShi]

Blackcat has a point. Alpert, try being gay for awhile and see how that works out. If you're more successful with it, then maybe that's the path for you.

[Al B. Sure!]

More successful with getting women? So the gay guys get all the girls routine?

I really doubt I act, talk, and look gay. Everyone is just saying that because Asher wanted to **** with me and it somehow stuck with all of you. Trust me. Some of you have even heard my voice. I don't sound gay, for one. I can't really show you how I act, though, but I'm positive women don't assume I'm gay. I've been told by some women that they assumed I was some sort of player at first.

[Jon Miller]

Yeah, surface jerk/player, then when they get to know you they discover that you are anything but. The girls who are attracted initially will be turned away.

Look for a different type of girl, or change your behavior.

JM

[Barnabas]

Have you tried women who love puppies and kitties and are all cutesy cutesy, they are not necessarily dumb, I know a few who are vets and put their arms up to the elbow inside cow anuses, or biologists.

They rarely run away from men as long as you comfort them if their bunny dies, they are easy without being sluts

[Imran Siddiqui]

I think this is Al's problem. All those women that befriends him think he is gay - he acts, talks and look that way. When they find out that he isn't, they panic and run away because while he is fine as a gay friend, they
don't want to know him as a hetero.

The fun stuff is that there may have been one or two women that could have accepted him as hetero, but didn't want to know him since he obvious was gay

That actually may not be as crazy as it sounds... there may be something to that. Maybe ask one of these women who are still friends with if that's the case.