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So true.
When a man goes into a serious relationship, it's not serious. When a man says they love the other one, it's not yet serious. When a man is going to have a child, then it is serious. At that point (or before that) we are reduced into robots:
We have to go into shops, carrying her bag(s). We have to be psychologists in order to avoid giving ANY answer to the questions "does this make me look fat", "this would look good on you?!?" and so forth. It's hot, and you bounce into every woman, since they happen to not follow the linear style of walking. They go from item to item, totally ad hoc. The system is chaos, and somehow they never actually move away, it is you who dodges a hoards of women. Then you have to avoid all the confrontation, the evil eyes they give to each other in shops. That's because they have such deep values about life, and how their bodies look, which is, of course, ultimately the fault of all men. Even though the fashion magazines are written mostly by women, and the people who JUDGE their appearance most harshly is other women. Few porn mags won't make a difference, they're all whores anyway, right?
Shopping is also a place where you get to buy stuff. It doesn't matter if you are tired or not. It's not something based on quotas either. It's "fun time". it is equal to you playing video games, except they are boring male stuff and you should do it on your own time, which you don't have. Too little shopping causes depression, shopping causes depression as well because the clothes won't fit. Or the bill afterward. Fortunately you get to offer to "help" so their financial situation won't bankrupt. Thank Jebus you did not buy the new game so you can afford this new shirt she will never ever wear.
Women want stuff. All the time. When you buy groceries, go out to eat, it is expected that you pay. If you share some costs, it is still expected that if it's not exactly 50/50, you pay the rest. Period. It does not go the other way, ever. On top of this, you get to buy these gifts, and somehow they still manage to have less money, even if they had a bigger salary. You would never ever want to put monthly balance sheet on the fridge. Women are the only people on earth who think they are actually "making money" by "saving" because there was a "sale" on a store that had these expensive shirts and they got it half price and it was a "steal". So not only did they save money, they also made money, which allows them to buy with the remaining portion. That can be just spent, wasted, because it's all bonus.
A woman can be jealous (of all other women, and sometimes, your friends) but you cannot ever be jealous of her. This is because women equal everything with love, you are under constant evaluation. so you spent 30 minutes playing a game? 30 minutes you could have spent with your woman. You would rather play games. You don't love her. You are so distant. Sometimes they look at you like superman with laser eyes. You look back at them, only to realize you are under evaluation. Now it's too late to look somewhere else, it's a sign of you not wanting to connect. So you keep looking back. Suddenly your lips and cheek starts to tremble. ****! This is not humane. Control. Your. Every. Muscle. "Do you still love me?", "Do you think...", "So I've been thinking...", "So I can't just look at you anymore?" and so forth. It's all ****ed once the staring starts.
Women worry about every single thing. In general all the things they worry are things you cannot control, or are abstract. You have no right to disagree about the validity of the things worried. They override things you are worried about, like perhaps the balance sheet of finances. You are supposed to make money, give it to her, not get any money from her salary, and then on top not spend any time doing the actual work of making the money, but instead you have to spend every single minute with them. Unless told otherwise. Like when their favourite TV shows are on, and in case you don't like soap opera/reality show/etc. it's a sign of you not understanding. Shows you like are "man shows". But you should still watch their shows with them, and not escape and do other things, because why don't you want to spend quality time?
The simplest things can be complex. Going to a grocery store to buy one single item, lets say bread, turns into you carrying bags, her grabbing tens of different products, including spices we will never use, and stuffing our kitchen with all kinds of stuff that will be discovered next time we move to another apartment, and it all amounts to you paying for it all. You agreed to get bread because it was eaten and that's the only thing needed, you come back with tons of stuff, you bought it and somehow we are broke. WTF?
All in all, women need money for the sole reason of existing. It is your job to provide it. you're not supposed to work OT to get it. You're supposed to like everything she suggest, and never ever like anything she does not.
But then again, you can't live without them either.
When a man goes into a serious relationship, it's not serious. When a man says they love the other one, it's not yet serious. When a man is going to have a child, then it is serious. At that point (or before that) we are reduced into robots:
We have to go into shops, carrying her bag(s). We have to be psychologists in order to avoid giving ANY answer to the questions "does this make me look fat", "this would look good on you?!?" and so forth. It's hot, and you bounce into every woman, since they happen to not follow the linear style of walking. They go from item to item, totally ad hoc. The system is chaos, and somehow they never actually move away, it is you who dodges a hoards of women. Then you have to avoid all the confrontation, the evil eyes they give to each other in shops. That's because they have such deep values about life, and how their bodies look, which is, of course, ultimately the fault of all men. Even though the fashion magazines are written mostly by women, and the people who JUDGE their appearance most harshly is other women. Few porn mags won't make a difference, they're all whores anyway, right?
Shopping is also a place where you get to buy stuff. It doesn't matter if you are tired or not. It's not something based on quotas either. It's "fun time". it is equal to you playing video games, except they are boring male stuff and you should do it on your own time, which you don't have. Too little shopping causes depression, shopping causes depression as well because the clothes won't fit. Or the bill afterward. Fortunately you get to offer to "help" so their financial situation won't bankrupt. Thank Jebus you did not buy the new game so you can afford this new shirt she will never ever wear.
Women want stuff. All the time. When you buy groceries, go out to eat, it is expected that you pay. If you share some costs, it is still expected that if it's not exactly 50/50, you pay the rest. Period. It does not go the other way, ever. On top of this, you get to buy these gifts, and somehow they still manage to have less money, even if they had a bigger salary. You would never ever want to put monthly balance sheet on the fridge. Women are the only people on earth who think they are actually "making money" by "saving" because there was a "sale" on a store that had these expensive shirts and they got it half price and it was a "steal". So not only did they save money, they also made money, which allows them to buy with the remaining portion. That can be just spent, wasted, because it's all bonus.
A woman can be jealous (of all other women, and sometimes, your friends) but you cannot ever be jealous of her. This is because women equal everything with love, you are under constant evaluation. so you spent 30 minutes playing a game? 30 minutes you could have spent with your woman. You would rather play games. You don't love her. You are so distant. Sometimes they look at you like superman with laser eyes. You look back at them, only to realize you are under evaluation. Now it's too late to look somewhere else, it's a sign of you not wanting to connect. So you keep looking back. Suddenly your lips and cheek starts to tremble. ****! This is not humane. Control. Your. Every. Muscle. "Do you still love me?", "Do you think...", "So I've been thinking...", "So I can't just look at you anymore?" and so forth. It's all ****ed once the staring starts.
Women worry about every single thing. In general all the things they worry are things you cannot control, or are abstract. You have no right to disagree about the validity of the things worried. They override things you are worried about, like perhaps the balance sheet of finances. You are supposed to make money, give it to her, not get any money from her salary, and then on top not spend any time doing the actual work of making the money, but instead you have to spend every single minute with them. Unless told otherwise. Like when their favourite TV shows are on, and in case you don't like soap opera/reality show/etc. it's a sign of you not understanding. Shows you like are "man shows". But you should still watch their shows with them, and not escape and do other things, because why don't you want to spend quality time?
The simplest things can be complex. Going to a grocery store to buy one single item, lets say bread, turns into you carrying bags, her grabbing tens of different products, including spices we will never use, and stuffing our kitchen with all kinds of stuff that will be discovered next time we move to another apartment, and it all amounts to you paying for it all. You agreed to get bread because it was eaten and that's the only thing needed, you come back with tons of stuff, you bought it and somehow we are broke. WTF?
All in all, women need money for the sole reason of existing. It is your job to provide it. you're not supposed to work OT to get it. You're supposed to like everything she suggest, and never ever like anything she does not.
But then again, you can't live without them either.
Don't lay back, bare your stomach and take it all. Express your dissatisfaction - only a little bit at a time mind you, don't save it all up and unload it all at once. Do it as it comes up. You went to buy bread, and she wants half the store? You pay for the bread. She asks "Why aren't you paying for the rest of it?" Say "I don't want it - you do. You pay."
That was definitely an overboard.... The things my SO has gone through with me because of my situation has been tremendous. She's been my biggest support, never leaving my side, showing loyalty to the end if that would have been the case. 
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