Marriage makes no sense for the modern male

[rah]

marriage protects the man from a woman that has his child but then decides he no longer needs to be involved and similarly protects her for the man that feels he longer needs to be involved. A civil agreement. It need not be religious.

[Kitschum]

And it's not like you need to abandon religious traditions just because you abandon your personal religious faith. Not that marriage necessarily has a religious origin.

[rah]

Correct, I didn't not abandon traditions just because I questioned my faith, i got married in a church. But I won't be so bigoted that I will refuse to recognize other's marriage just because they didn't get married in a church.

[Alinestra Covelia]

My parents got married in a civil ceremony without any religious oversight.

However, my dad's family was there - all 175 of them, from China, Taiwan, and North America.

So you could probably argue there was adequate human oversight

[Mrs. Tuberski]

The first time i got married was in a catholic church and well that didnt turn out to well, not because of the church, the man had more to do with that failure, With tubes no wedding just a ur my wife from him and an ok from me, no church or peeps invited

[Traianvs]

The question to marry or not varies depending on your lifestyle.

Some people seek stability and that the next day will be the the one today. Others have a completely different outlook on life, in which marriage doesn't really fit in. These 'others' are still a minority and probably will remain so since most people want that feeling of security found in marriage.

For me, marriage is not even something I would think about. And unless I am to drastically overhaul my life, it's not going to happen anytime soon..

[Dis]

rah has it right. If you want any part of your kid's life, you should get married. It's the only way a man has any rights.

But if you don't care about your kids, by all means, don't get married.

At one point I thought it would be nice to have a normal life (married with kids), but I've given up on that dream. I'm just too abnormal. marriage

[Heraclitus]

Married couples actually get a lot of tax breaks in ways that cohabiting (or same-sex couples who can't legally get married) don't have.

You can add your dollar limits together to increase the level of deductions you get from certain types of home debt, for example.

Actually in Slovenia you are better off tax-wise if you don't marry and just cohabit.

[Elok]

Actually, in Slovenia you are better off moving to a place that isn't Slovenia. Preferably not even in the Balkans.

[rah]

My question is for all the posters that have been married for at least 10 years.
If you found yourself single again, (let's not focus how that happens ) do you think you would marry again.

For me I've been married over 20 years, but doubt I would remarry.

[Patroklos]

I think I saw stats that married people are richer, live longer and are happier.

Those stats would be retarded. A good many married people who happy get divorced, making them again singe.

[DanS]

Meh, I've heard this whole "if you're not religious, there's no point in getting married" thing before. I'm not religious, and it never entered my mind that I wouldn't get married. To each their own, I suppose.

Respectable society still expects and encourages marriage. Maybe some parts of the world operate differently, but I suspect that they don't.

[Kontiki]

Quebec may be the closest to bucking the trend, actually.

http://www.thestar.com/news/article/255724

[Dis]

Thinking about it some more, marriage actually makes more sense for a man, than a woman. Men really don't get any parental rights unless they marry.

If anything the thread title should be changed to: Marriage makes no sense for the modern female.

If women were smart they'd just screw wealthy men when they want to become pregnant. Get child support off them while they form relationships with cooler gangster types. The types who never seem to hold a job which women for some reason find attractive. That way she could have all her bills paid, and still be with the more attractive person in the end.

[Blaupanzer]

My question is for all the posters that have been married for at least 10 years.
If you found yourself single again, (let's not focus how that happens ) do you think you would marry again.

For me I've been married over 20 years, but doubt I would remarry.

Married for 35 years in August. If suddenly single now, I would not consider marrying any woman but my current.

If I had a chance to choose whether to do it again somehow being in the nearly 35 years ago period, knowing what I know now, I would do it again in a heartbeat.