Do you want kids?

[ricketyclik]

Suddenly you have to promote their interests to the top of your agenda, and happily assume responsibility for their interests and welfare as though they were your own.

I'm having difficulty imagining that I can do that.

I don't think you're ready to have a kid yet. A time will come when you feel something more like Arrian:

Ultimately, I decided that we're too boring to have a bunch of stuff that we'd rather do (and thus resent having to put aside to deal with the kiddie).

Although in my case it was more like "I've done all the stuff that I really want to do for myself, now what else is there to do?"

I suspect that after the kids leave home I'll get in to volunteer work.

[Alinestra Covelia]

I don't think you're ready to have a kid yet.

I'm in complete agreement with you on this. I don't think I'll be ready to have a kid, ever.

[SlowwHand]

Josie (3) who, when asked to clean up her play room, stormed off and sat on the stairs because she was "frustrated". When left alone she began gnawing on the corner of the wall and banister.

Kids

That's so funny. That IS like a kid. You want to get irritated and stop them, but stuff like that is funny. Throwing a fit.

[Arrian]

Although in my case it was more like "I've done all the stuff that I really want to do for myself, now what else is there to do?"

Pretty close. Your version sounds better. I think I'll steal it.

Josie (3) who, when asked to clean up her play room, stormed off and sat on the stairs because she was "frustrated". When left alone she began gnawing on the corner of the wall and banister.

Oh man.

-Arrian

[Caligastia]

Josie (3) who, when asked to clean up her play room, stormed off and sat on the stairs because she was "frustrated". When left alone she began gnawing on the corner of the wall and banister.

Kids

In my house we call that the "naughty step". My 3 year old son knows it well.

[Lorizael]

Josie (3) who, when asked to clean up her play room, stormed off and sat on the stairs because she was "frustrated". When left alone she began gnawing on the corner of the wall and banister.

Kids

I think this post is a good measure of whether or not you should be a parent. I'm going to be the first one to reply with a rather than a .

[Provost Harrison]

Yes. I want to father children with a woman whom I am love with, and she in love with me.

My God, someone fetch me the sick bucket

Well I don't know, I will see how I feel when I am in a situation where the potential of having kids is on the cards...but that isn't the case, and it does feel like I am against the clock a bit on that one now anyway.

[ricketyclik]

Pretty close. Your version sounds better. I think I'll steal it.

It started out like yours, but I've evolved it over the years

[Monk]

I don't think you're ready to have a kid yet.

Not really pointing any finger at you, ricketyclik, so excuse my reaction! It's just that the 'yet' part of your comment reminds me so much of what I've always been told by others, namely that I'll want and/or understand this when I get older, and so I have to make a little contribution to the thread...

I've always maintained I didn't want children. Firstly because I don't feel that children are right for me or that I am right for children. I'd probably be okay at the fatherhood thingy if I ended up in that situation, but it's nothing I desire. Secondly I have AAHZ's issue of a number of genetic disorders in the family - thankfully I've been spared for troublesome stuff, but I'm presumably still a carrier of something unfortunate.

But what I really wanted to stress was the fact that people like me who don't want children are always doubted. Much unlike a girl I knew who at age 19 said she wanted something like six or seven children. Nobody questioned her emotions or rationality, nobody even thought of bringing up the issue that if you want six children you have to figure out a plan about how you're going to accomodate them, even if you live in a social state like mine.

But when I maintain I don't want kids, people say they know better. Baaah!

[Jon Miller]

It's biologically suspect.

JM

[ricketyclik]

Not really pointing any finger at you, ricketyclik, so excuse my reaction! It's just that the 'yet' part of your comment reminds me so much of what I've always been told by others, namely that I'll want and/or understand this when I get older, and so I have to make a little contribution to the thread...

I've always maintained I didn't want children. Firstly because I don't feel that children are right for me or that I am right for children. I'd probably be okay at the fatherhood thingy if I ended up in that situation, but it's nothing I desire. Secondly I have AAHZ's issue of a number of genetic disorders in the family - thankfully I've been spared for troublesome stuff, but I'm presumably still a carrier of something unfortunate.

But what I really wanted to stress was the fact that people like me who don't want children are always doubted. Much unlike a girl I knew who at age 19 said she wanted something like six or seven children. Nobody questioned her emotions or rationality, nobody even thought of bringing up the issue that if you want six children you have to figure out a plan about how you're going to accomodate them, even if you live in a social state like mine.

But when I maintain I don't want kids, people say they know better. Baaah!

I completely believe you Monk.

It's AC I don't believe*:

1, because she's young, and

2, because of what she was saying about her brother, and

3, because her analysis sounds more like questioning than a statement.

* That's a strong statement. I should say "... who seems like she may well change her mind later".

[Lorizael]

Josie (3) who, when asked to clean up her play room, stormed off and sat on the stairs because she was "frustrated". When left alone she began gnawing on the corner of the wall and banister.

Kids

I think this post is a good measure of whether or not you should be a parent. I'm going to be the first one to reply with a rather than a .

Oh god. I burst out laughing reading Japher's post just now.

[I AM MOBIUS]

Interesting necro thread...

I'm pretty ambivalent about the whole deal.

I mean, I have a kid, I just wasn't actively wanting kids at the time and he was kind of forced on me. I've never lived with him, so I've had to deal with all that entails over the years, though I have decided I'm glad I've got him - even if he's an annoying teenager these days...

As for actually planning to have kids, I've never felt a particularly burning desire and my longterm ex was adamantly against them. My current partner is about as ambivalent about them as me, though curiously, if she decided she wanted a child, I would be OK with that too.

[Bereta_Eder]

Kids are probably the only reason to try and do stuff instead of just cruising along and enjoy life.
Otherwise you're just working for the man

[Saras]

I have all the kids I need.

http://apolyton.net/showthread.php/207396-Baby-CUTEFEST%21?p=6367020#post6367020