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  • Is there an explanation for my grudge?

    Grudge might be the wrong word but I have a good memory. Not just negative things, but it seems to me it's problematic for me to forget, period. Sometimes I wish I could forget, some people would like to have good memory but sometimes it's a pain in the ass.

    Like for example I just got agitated a bit because this bartender was being rude 3 years ago. It seems to me I can't shake it off. But 3 years ago, I was in Estonia, and this bartender would ignore me. It was a small table, only 3 people could fit there to order drinks. So I got there, no one else was there except 2 other people. So I wait until they have ordered. No one else around. The 2 people decide to take their shots right there and order more, but they didn't order right away. OK... no biggie, I'll wait my turn. Then, they order second round and leave, but then 1 more person replaces them two. I'm like air, I'm face to face to the bartender but I'm totally ignored. I think OK, it happens sometimes. Then the person goes away and the next 2 come there, and once again they order and I'm like air. I'm beginning to think this is a joke or something. A bit upset but thinking I'll get mine next.

    The, a third set of 2 people come and they somehow get to order before me. So this is 6 people altogether, it's a small table, intimate table, if I'd reach my arm, I could touch the bartender, that's how close I was. And I was totally air, as if I wasn't there.

    I got pissed off. I pretty much shouted at the bartender, not my most brilliant moments but damn, that was pretty bad. I was just standing there like a fool. So I gave the bartender a piece of my mind and left angry. It wasn't a mistake, it was a small table, very small. I didn't make any mistakes like not trying to order or looking like I was just hanging around. I just wasn't being served, plus I wasn't drunk either, I just got there! I didn't have snot hanging from my nose either.

    I've never been treated like that, and I didn't know why I was treated likel this. So anyway, not the biggest deal in the world, but it's been 3 years and I still get upset about it on a regular basis, say few times a year. I don't think it's very normal. I think I should not be thinking about it, but I just can't forget about it. It's like you're right in front of me but you don't see me. It's so disrespectful, I just got upset about it. I went to another desk and no problems what so ever, so it wasn't the place, it was just that one bartender.

    Now I'm pissed off again because of the way I was treated and I'm also pissed off because I can't shake it off. I think the on lyway for me to let this go is to travel to Estonia, go to that club again, go every night of the week so the bartender might work there (I remember the face), and just plain attack. Just a brutal beatdown, I don't care, they'd throw me in jail for few days, bouncers would prolly beat me but I'd get my payback. Maybe I could then forget about it.
    In da butt.
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  • #2
    ... or just decide that some bartenders are either morons or *******s and let it be?
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    • #3
      He's just hoping that he'll be able to chase Sarah Michelle Gellar around.
      “As a lifelong member of the Columbia Business School community, I adhere to the principles of truth, integrity, and respect. I will not lie, cheat, steal, or tolerate those who do.”
      "Capitalism ho!"

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      • #4
        Jesus, just let it go

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        • #5
          Yeah, but that's what I've been trying to do. It's not that I actively think about this, but every now and then it pops up and I get immidiately pissed off about it even today.

          Is it the rudest thing ever done to me, absolutely no. So why would it bother me? I don't know. I really don't know, it somehow got under my skin badly. I don't shout at people either, even when I'm upset. It's not what I do. But I did shout then, gave few names I'd like to call that bartender and it was pretty spontaneous as well so... it really did tick me off.

          But these things tends to build up. Beause tonight I once again started to think about it, this is building up inside me. It's building up because I can't shake it off.
          In da butt.
          "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
          THE UNDEFEATED SUPERCITIZEN w:4 t:2 l:1 (DON'T ASK!)
          "God is dead" - Nietzsche. "Nietzsche is dead" - God.

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          • #6
            I know how you feel. I obsess sometimes too. Some people tell me that the best way not to obsess is not to start. Once you start obsessing it can play on itself. You feed your own obsession.

            For me though I just can't turn it off. So I just deal with it. It gets better for me after a little while. Maybe if you just stopped trying to spot obsessing and just live with it you will start thinking about it less.
            I drank beer. I like beer. I still like beer. ... Do you like beer Senator?
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            • #7
              Like for example I just got agitated a bit because this bartender was being rude 3 years ago. It seems to me I can't shake it off. But 3 years ago, I was in Estonia, and this bartender would ignore me. It was a small table, only 3 people could fit there to order drinks. So I got there, no one else was there except 2 other people. So I wait until they have ordered. No one else around. The 2 people decide to take their shots right there and order more, but they didn't order right away. OK... no biggie, I'll wait my turn. Then, they order second round and leave, but then 1 more person replaces them two. I'm like air, I'm face to face to the bartender but I'm totally ignored. I think OK, it happens sometimes. Then the person goes away and the next 2 come there, and once again they order and I'm like air. I'm beginning to think this is a joke or something. A bit upset but thinking I'll get mine next....
              Cat got your tongue? Say something. *****slap him.
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              • #8
                Re: Is there an explanation for my grudge?

                Yes, there probably is.

                I, on the other hand, never hold a grudge. Whenever I get angry at some dude, I just think of the fact that I have a much larger penis than he has, and feel sorry for him instead
                THEY!!111 OMG WTF LOL LET DA NOMADS AND TEH S3D3NTARY PEOPLA BOTH MAEK BITER AXP3REINCES
                AND TEH GRAAT SINS OF THERE [DOCTRINAL] INOVATIONS BQU3ATH3D SMAL
                AND!!1!11!!! LOL JUST IN CAES A DISPUTANT CALS U 2 DISPUT3 ABOUT THEYRE CLAMES
                DO NOT THAN DISPUT3 ON THEM 3XCAPT BY WAY OF AN 3XTARNAL DISPUTA!!!!11!! WTF

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                • #9
                  It wasn't a place like that, you'd have to shout pretty hard. Plus I didn't need to, it wasn't that. And it was a her. But I should have stabbed her though.
                  In da butt.
                  "Do not worry if others do not understand you. Instead worry if you do not understand others." - Confucius
                  THE UNDEFEATED SUPERCITIZEN w:4 t:2 l:1 (DON'T ASK!)
                  "God is dead" - Nietzsche. "Nietzsche is dead" - God.

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                  • #10


                    Don't make mountains out of mole hills.
                    I drank beer. I like beer. I still like beer. ... Do you like beer Senator?
                    - Justice Brett Kavanaugh

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Kidicious


                      Don't make mountains out of mole hills.
                      Xpost?
                      “As a lifelong member of the Columbia Business School community, I adhere to the principles of truth, integrity, and respect. I will not lie, cheat, steal, or tolerate those who do.”
                      "Capitalism ho!"

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                      • #12
                        THEY!!111 OMG WTF LOL LET DA NOMADS AND TEH S3D3NTARY PEOPLA BOTH MAEK BITER AXP3REINCES
                        AND TEH GRAAT SINS OF THERE [DOCTRINAL] INOVATIONS BQU3ATH3D SMAL
                        AND!!1!11!!! LOL JUST IN CAES A DISPUTANT CALS U 2 DISPUT3 ABOUT THEYRE CLAMES
                        DO NOT THAN DISPUT3 ON THEM 3XCAPT BY WAY OF AN 3XTARNAL DISPUTA!!!!11!! WTF

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Kidicious


                          Don't make mountains out of mole hills.
                          This was response to Pekka, but can also apply to LS
                          I drank beer. I like beer. I still like beer. ... Do you like beer Senator?
                          - Justice Brett Kavanaugh

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                          • #14
                            I don't shout at people either, even when I'm upset.
                            Maybe thats why you cant let it go, you regret your behavior too...

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                            • #15
                              There's another possibility. Pekka has finally snapped.
                              It's rubber room time. Pekka, my old friend, I'll write.
                              Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.
                              "Hating America is something best left to Mobius. He is an expert Yank hater.
                              He also hates Texans and Australians, he does diversify." ~ Braindead

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