Break ups

[TCO]

Re: Break ups

Originally posted by Dauphin
partner

Are you gay?

[TCO]

I will always think about the one who got away. She was as cool as she seemed at the time (no mask) and we were soul mates. She has a promise to God now and is with another. So many things...that I could never say occurred.

[Spiffor]

Re: Break ups

Originally posted by Dauphin
Assume you've just broken up with your partner. Or remember back to previous break-ups. Or make it up if you've never had a break up (or a relationship ). How long would it be til you'd start looking to enter a relationship again?

Put whatever details you like in. I'm looking for a range of answers and scenarios, and want to see what scenario best fits a recent observation I've made.

I've only had one break-up, since I've only had one girlfriend. We spent two and half years together. She was the one who broke up, though I rationally agreed to it.

It took me about one year to feel good again, and to look forward to the future. I have been infatuated several times during that period, yet my mindset wasn't adequate: it was a mix between self-pity (about the present loneliness) and melancholy about my ex. During that year, I was could only think of the present and the past, and every new day of loneliness added to the despair, to the idea that there was no light at the end of the tunnel.

Since then, I've been able to think about the future again, and I generally feel that I do have a future. This makes for a healthy mindset in order to build something new, instead of something on the rebound.

[Spec]

Re: Break ups

Originally posted by Dauphin
Assume you've just broken up with your partner. Or remember back to previous break-ups. Or make it up if you've never had a break up (or a relationship ). How long would it be til you'd start looking to enter a relationship again?

Ummmm....15 minutes, if I'm tired.

Spec.

[Drake Tungsten]

Depends on how much I valued the relationship. I've lined up a new relationship while I was still in a failing relationship I knew I was going to end. I've also sulked for a couple months after the end of a good relationship.

[Cort Haus]

I've never felt bad after a break up - usually more relieved because something that wasn't working was suddenly no longer a problem. I would tend to drift fairly quickly into the next relationship, until I decided to force myself to stay single for a while and take the time to make a really good choice. Any lovers/flings would be on the clear understanding that it wasn't long term until I found the right woman - which I did. I never doubted that she was out there, though.

[Dinner]

Then your lucky. I've only really felt bad after three break ups but that was enough. Not coincidentally I have been dumped three times while the rest I did the dumping.

[Ninot]

So, i've mostly figured out I want to break up with my girlfriend. I planned to tell her this yesterday, but she told me that unless I planned to tell her good news, she'd like if I waited for Friday. Not having much else on my mind, I didn't say anything else yesterday.

Because of that, and a variety of other signs, I think she has figured out what I plan to say on Friday.

Tonight, she left me with a emoticon before bed.

I feel like a total ass.

But really, what other choice do I have?

[Sikander]

I wouldn't waste a lot of time moping, but wouldn't leap into another deep relationship either. I'd play the field for at least a year if possible.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Ninot
Because of that, and a variety of other signs, I think she has figured out what I plan to say on Friday.

Tonight, she left me with a emoticon before bed.

I feel like a total ass.

But really, what other choice do I have?

None.

Breakups hurt, because they're the moment you make it "official" that the love is gone.

[Tingkai]

Got dumped last month. Haven't had time to do much, but plan on casual dating, not looking for long term ****.

[Drogue]

Definately after at least a week or so, but relatively soon. Makes it much easier to move on.

[Dauphin]

Re: Re: Break ups

Originally posted by TCO


Are you gay?

No, but thanks for asking. I was trying to be inclusive.

[TCO]

Originally posted by Oerdin
Then your lucky. I've only really felt bad after three break ups but that was enough. Not coincidentally I have been dumped three times while the rest I did the dumping.

I always do the dumping. Not proud. and not that much happening lately. Makes on feel guilt. Plus best woman was the one who popped my cherry.

[TCO]

Re: Re: Re: Break ups

Originally posted by Dauphin


No, but thanks for asking. I was trying to be inclusive.

How metrosexual. Eurocom.