Best way to get over a girl.

[Dinner]

To that end I sent a bunch more e-mails on match.com, spent about an hour clicking away on hotornot.com, and spoke with the local dating agency "Great Expectations" which is supposed to help active single professionals meet each other.

I maybe single again but I'm hitting the ground running. I have a new excercise program and now I'm on a mission to find a new girl.

[Dinner]

I found this and thought it might help others (or maybe myself):

11 Tips For Getting Over Your Ex

Your sweetie ended it, that heartless girl. Now your future is in shambles. You feel the need to panic and beg for her back. You'll do anything to make things right.

But no matter how you try, you can't get back to that little spot of sunlight where you were so comfortable and safe.

There's only one thing left for you to do: Forget her. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but with this blueprint, you'll forget that girl and pick up the pieces of your shattered heart -- and manhood -- in no time.

1- Take her off that pedestal
Don't idolize her and build her up into something great. She is nothing of the sort. So don't gaze lovingly at pictures of her. Don't jump to answer her e-mail or phone calls. And definitely don't go out of your way for her. She no longer deserves preferential treatment.

2- Get closure
It's essential to definitively end any hopes of reconciliation between the two of you. And if you can't get that into your head, she owes you the courtesy of it crystal clear. She needs to tell you: "I never loved you. I don't love you now. We'll never get back together." After some prodding, she'll probably do it, just to get rid of you. It provides what therapists call "closure." And you can begin to heal.

3- Don't contact her
After the relationship reaches finality, you have to break off contact or you will go mad. Don't beg or cry. Don't drunk-dial. Don't write her e-mail. Don't send packages or CDs. Don't dedicate a song to her on the radio. Get the picture? She will find you if she wants to. And even if you can talk your way back into her arms, it's only a temporary reprieve. She already knows you want her back, and she doesn't care. Take that as a sign.

4- Get negative feelings out on paper
Write her a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings, then disassociate them from yourself. Throw the letter away or burn it. But definitely don't send it to her. You will only regret it. She will show her friends and her new boyfriend. And they will all share a good laugh.

5- Avoid her friends & the places she hangs
Don't venture into her territory. You won't be welcome. Find new places to hang out for the first few months and make new friends, if necessary. If any of your friends insist on maintaining contact with her, you may have to shut them out, too -- at least temporarily. After some time has passed, you should go back to living normally, and that means hanging out at these places and reconnecting with mutual friends.
6- Throw away anything that reminds you of her
You don't have to burn it all, but definitely get pictures, gifts, clothing, letters, and e-mail out of your living area, or at least out of your line of vision. If that means giving away roughly half of your wardrobe to get rid of the memory of her, so be it. As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds you of your ex, discard it. This can save your sanity.

7- Don't try to get your stuff back
Unless it's a diamond ring or something that's one-of-a-kind, you're better off not contacting her to get it back. DVDs, clothes, your extra toothbrush... just let 'em go. They're only possessions. Is it really worth the pain of being in her presence just to reclaim a pair of boxer shorts? Don't exchange your dignity for menial belongings.

8- Hang out with your friends
Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn't all that to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea. A little male camaraderie can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We've all been detonated by a woman before and most of us will likely get detonated again.

9- Exercise your newfound freedom
Freedom is always intoxicating. There's a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your "other half" didn't approve. So indulge. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Play video games on your computer. Watch TV all weekend. Do anything you want. Why not start boxing? Ideally, you want to find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress.

10- Remember the bad times
If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times she was a ***** to you. That should do it. Remember the time she made you wait by the dressing room as she endlessly tried on clothing? Or the time she reminded you not too drink too much in front of your posse? Nobody wants that back.

11- Sleep with another girl

Nothing reminds you that you are a man quite like having a new woman in your bed. So take solace in the arms of another. Call it a rebound if you wish. Plenty of heartbroken guys go this route and for a very good reason -- it makes you feel better, even if it's only temporary. So go out there and feel better about yourself!

Bonus: Seduce somebody she's jealous of
Remember the hair stylist or the hot barmaid your ex scolded you for looking at? Well, now's your chance to make a move that will pay off in more ways than just sex. Just think, if your ex finds out you've been fishing in familiar waters, it will drive her to the point of hysteria. This can be quite gratifying.

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[Dinner]

I now have final closure and I'm not going to contact her any more plus I don't have her on a pedistal so at least I am part way down the list. I didn't leave anything at her place (though she did mine), I'm going to have to avoid the friends and organization we have in common for a month or two, she didn't eat red meat so I'm going to BBQ up a steak and eat it with abandon (when we were together we had to go to restaurants we both liked and she would refuse to kiss me if I ate pork since she was/is Jewish), after that the only thing left to do is sleep with another girl. I know just the girl to get the bonus point too but the problem is I doubt she'd ever sleep with me. It would be the coupe d'grase though.

[lord of the mark]

Originally posted by Oerdin
(when we were together we had to go to restaurants we both liked and she would refuse to kiss me if I ate pork since she was/is Jewish),

Hmmmm. I detect a confused and conflicted young woman here. Sounds like breaking up may be the best for the both of you.

[Dinner]

Tell me about it. When we started dating religion wasn't a big deal and infact (she asked me first) when I told her I was an atheist she was very quick to say she was raised Jewish but wasn't very religious. Long story short she was fairly religious and became more so due to the New Year's holiday and Yum Kippor. I was always supportive of her religion but I refused to follow her urgings to not eat pork etc... and that cheesed her off.

[Kuciwalker]

Um, doesn't the pork-restriction specifically only apply to Jews?

[Spaced Cowboy]

I'm telling you it is all about number 11.

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Kuciwalker
Um, doesn't the pork-restriction specifically only apply to Jews?

Seventh Day Adventists don't eat pork.

Jon Miller

[Cort Haus]

Originally posted by Spec
Most of you are single and/or virgins because blah blah

There you are launching threads about how you can't find your perfect girl, they're all nagging b1tches etc etc, and in the next breath you are coming out with crap like this.

[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
Seventh Day Adventists don't eat pork.

Jon Miller

I meant, isn't it part of Jewish theology that non-Jews can have all the pork they want?

[Dis]

Originally posted by Lancer
*****coughfilipinacough*****

I think you are lost, you realize you are posting in off-topic.

[Vince278]

Originally posted by Dis
10 years!

True, and the resolution after 10 years? We got married. That's another reason why I wouldn't recommend anyone trying it. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than having that much heart-wrenching patience rewarded.

"If you love someone, set them free..."

[Dis]

Corrine ehh.


Would it make you any better if I screwed her?

feel free to give me her number. only kidding. not like I'd have a chance anyways.

[Pekka]

Best way to get over a girl is to trap her wrists, and then mount while keeping her hands trapped. And to test if there's something serious going on, take off the mouth gag for a while to see if she screams.

[asleepathewheel]

Best way to get over a girl?

Dunno, haven't been dumped since Soundgarden, Superunknown, but THAT was a hell of an album to have at the time.