How do you people keep old friends

[Wiglaf]

I am not talking about lovers or sex relationships or whatever you call them these days, I am talking about friends of the same gender that you are not attracted to.

after 1-2 years of college I lost contact with several high school friends. After college I fear the process is repeating itself. For instance. I had a roomate, we were great friends from sophomore year onward. Now he is working as some sort of famer in podunkville And I am going to be quite a ways away.

anyway. what is the longest lasting friendsihp you have had, excluding women or men (in asher's case LOL) who you are romantically involved with. and how did you keep it up...?

[Thorn]

People move away..... my longest friendship (not best mind you though) is from 5th grade to today, but now he's moving away..... so we'll see if we keep in touch.....

[Wiglaf]

yeah i mean , how do you maintain friendships , when you move away. i apprently am not too good at it , 5th grade, that's insane

[Thorn]

I don't....... they just eventually forget about me..... hopefully not too quickly..... but you know life can suck like that... people have different priorities when they are not in your area anymore....

[Japher]

I have about 5-6 friends that I have had since 1987. We keep in touch through phone calls, e-mails, and infrequent visits. Some of them I haven't seen in over a year. It works for us as there is unwritten rule of friendship. So, even if you haven't seen each other in awhile, when you do it's like old times.

I generally only keep in touch with 2 of them, but they don't keep in touch with each other,they use me. It's rather networked.

[Provost Harrison]

I am still in correspondence with some really old friends (just emailed a friend who I have known for 15 years - that's not bad considering my age, although it is a bit harder to meet him as he now lives in Australia), but yeah, I have not had too much luck with university friends - some I have kept in touch with really well (I was the best man for one of them), and others have drifted apart. Shame really...

[BlackCat]

Originally posted by Wiglaf
yeah i mean , how do you maintain friendships , when you move away. i apprently am not too good at it , 5th grade, that's insane

Yup, fifth grade seems to be appropriate - occationally I meet a couple of friends I made then (1970), but not often - they live in another part of the country. I guess thay still last because it was from the time where you started to discover booze, girls, cigarettes, girls, motorized thingies, girls, etc. Oh, and not to forget, girls.

[Wiglaf]

5th grade is kinda early to be htiting on girls is it not?

[BlackCat]

Well, hitting on them as a ten year old boy is maybe a stretch - lets say I started to have other thoughts than "eeew, a girl" about my dancing partner - took a couple of years more before I figured out why I was interested in her in a new manner .

[Chemical Ollie]

I accidentally put a pair of trousers in the laundry, with an adress book containing all my friends in the pocket. So now I don't have any friends.

[Zkribbler]

After high school I lost track of my best friend until he called and asked if I was going to the 10 year reunion. Then he added, "'Cause if you're not going, I'm not going." Fine; guilt trip me. So I went.


He lived in a small town, about an hour outside of Los Angeles. So I began going up on weekends to get away. After my parents died, I'd go to his place for Christmas.

I think essentially you have to have a reason to periodically get together: e.g. Spend every Xmas or 4th of July or birthday or something together. If it's part of your routine, you'll do it. If not, say aloha.

[Main_Brain]

Since Kindergarten, just call form Time to Time, meet over the Holidays etc.

[Jon Miller]

I am pretty bad at it also...

I didn't have real freinds for much of Middle School and High School, my siblings were really my freinds.. and I have started to make more of an effort to talk to them (normally I would see them (sometimes for less than an hour) over Christmas.. and then would maybe talk to them on the phone... I have this summer talked to my older brother once, my older sister 0 times (I haven't seen her for 2.5 years, and haven't tallked to her for 1.5 years), my younger sister once, and my younger brother 4 or so times. Of course, I didn't make it home for Christmas this last year, so I haven't seen any of my siblings for over a year.

My undergrad freinds I send emails to at least once a year, we use to ge together once a year also, but we didn't last year (it has been a bit over 4 years since I graduated). My graduate school freinds (I moved .5 years ago to a research lab) I call or see in game occasionally, and I go visit (they live ~3 hours a way) once every month or so.

Jon Miller

[Ecthy]

Is it just me or is Wiglaf ALWAYS angry when he posts here?

[molly bloom]

Embalming fluid, deep freeze and special hooks in the cellar.