Apparently I think too much.

[Tiamat]

No problemo Glad to help, call on me anytime.

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by Sn00py


Tiamat, you nailed it on the head, I remember when I was younger, I asked my mum why its not good to think too much (after she would tell me I think too much), she would say exactly what you said.

Go with the flow, sure, that's my middle name, but I like analyzing, I like things to be more clear. But my question to you then, is why is it not good to over-analyze?

I've been around the block a few times. And no! That's not open season for comments you freeks!

I've just dated a few people like that and have had to have that talk a few times. That's all their saying. Stop thinking so much and just enjoy the moment or whatever is happening at the time instead of trying to always figure things out. Because on some level you do put a damper on things.

[Tiamat]

sorry didn't see your question. Not good to overanalyze because you will eventually drive people away as well as they won't want to hang or go do things with you because they know what's always going to happen. Let me guess, you have a best friend or really good friend but they tell you that you drive them nuts sometimes?

[The Emperor Fabulous]

The Bimbo: The curse of the intelligent but horny male.

What matters is to which organ you send the blood.

[FrostyBoy]

Yes Tiamat, thats right.

I have friends and relatives who I can talk to about deep topics (eg my dad), but others just can't delve into it. (eg my mum).

I will tell you the truth Tiamat, I would love to talk in Simple-Mode, but it is damn hard to do, I will lose concentration, probably because I become bored with all the useless knowledge thrown at me, such as, how was your day, or this person did that the other day.

[Lancer]

There's a Filipina that goes to a special school for gifted students. When she's not at school she live across the street from us in the Phils. Her current studies are in entimology.

Also, amazingly... well find out for yourself. Google Jagna Bohol Physics

Hopefully that will do it.

[The Emperor Fabulous]

Originally posted by Sn00py
I will tell you the truth Tiamat, I would love to talk in Simple-Mode, but it is damn hard to do, I will lose concentration, probably because I become bored with all the useless knowledge thrown at me, such as, how was your day, or this person did that the other day.

Woah, hold on. If you don't care about the day that was had by a person who should make up half of the whole, then the problem seems to lie with you.

[Lancer]

A couple years ago a cute young filipna PHD came over and asked if we could find her a penpal. Super smart.

Snoopy, she might tell you that you need to think more.

[DaShi]

Originally posted by Lancer
Meet a Filipina. They don't care how much you think because it's your brain after all.

In my case, it was a Filipina who told me this. She was right, too.

[The Emperor Fabulous]

Filipinas have hairy nipples = FACT.

[Spiffor]

Re: Apparently I think too much.

Originally posted by Sn00py
What is this? "You think too much". What does this mean? Often, from females, I am told that I think too much.

How can you think too much? Is that really a bad thing? If I didn't think a lot, what would happen? Would I be less aware? Less able to comprehend? Less understanding? (Did I just say the same thing 3 times?)

So what? Should I just stop thinking? Maybe I think a lot because I am an imaginative person? Like a writer, surely writers must think a lot.

Is it not normal to think a lot? So is it true that most people do not think about stuff a lot?

Long-winded post. The same happened to me about one year ago, and I'm trying to sum up my year-long thinking/feeling process step-by-step (the process still hasn't come to an end)

I heard that quite a bit in the monthes after my breakup as well. This statement (which I heard way too often, from too many people to ignore) actually prompted me to think more

At first, I was almost outraged by the idea that I could think too much. After all, thinking is what separates me from an animal or from a moron. It has always been my main strength, and mankind's strength too.

But after that, I wondered what it could possibly mean. It didn't mean that I hung out with the wrong people, stupid people. I know my friends well enough to be certain that it's something else.

Basically, it means that I'm not spontaneous. But the phrase "I'm not spontaneous" can be meaningless. Why the heck would I want to be spontaneous? My personality has always been about thinking before acting. Obviously, I felt like the people who told me that I was thinking too much were misguided: In my opinion at the time, following this advice would lead me to just try to adopt a new personality that isn't actually mine.

But then, I thought different. "Thinking too much" wasn't merely about spontaneity. It was about my relationship to my feelings. For most of my teenagehood, up to my breakup last summer, I felt that my emotions were barely existent. I was an extremist in my rational outlook on life: everything was explainable. Everything was rationalizable. I strived to have a rational behaviour.

My breakup changed that. I became fully aware of my feelings' existence. Jealousy, anger, melancholy, despair, I felt all that... I was aware that they were feelings, and I didn't attempt to think as if I was behaving rationally.

However, I was considering these feelings as bad things. Alien things that I had to put under control, so that I could still have a rational life despite these little ****ers running galore inside me. I had to understand them. Had to understand what triggered them. And to understand them, the first thing to do was to turn my feelings into words. Into concepts that I could think about, concepts that I could intellectually manipulate. In the end, I spoke about my feelings like any scientist would speak about a topic of study.

It is when I did it that I got the brunt of the "you think too much" statements. I was a brutal rationalist: I had a goal-oriented attitude, I had a strategy to reach my goals, I was aware of my internal weaknesses which I tried to put under control, and I was constantly reflecting on this, analyzing it.

Since then (it was a few monthes ago), I have become more laid-back. I have understood that I shouldn't conceptualize my feelings too much: as I put words on my feelings, my mind figures them as being static (whereas their true nature is to change very often). As such, when I "analyze" my feelings, I'm doomed to have a flawed result.

I am currently in the process of embracing my emotional side, living with my feelings and not against them. I still think on things worth thinking about (politics & suchlike, carreer plans, organization of my local chapter), but I am increasingly spontaneous in the areas of life that deserve it, especially when it comes to friendships, and maybe even romance at some point.

"Spontaneousness" here doesn't merely mean that I'm doing my every whim whenever I feel like it (I don't), but that I'm at peace with myself: my brain is stopping his long oppression over my heart, and I'm a much more balanced fellow now.

[Sikander]

Originally posted by The Emperor Fabulous
The Bimbo: The curse of the intelligent but horny male.

What matters is to which organ you send the blood.

The Filipina Bimbo: The temporary cure for the curse, at least until the language barrier comes down.

[reds4ever]

Spiffor, you DO think too much......

[alva]

You think too much

It's also or could be about indecisiveness, as in "just do it, will you!".

[alva]

You think too much

It's also or could be about indecisiveness, as in "just do it, will you!".

Spiffor, you DO think too much......

...and also types too much.