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Well, tomorrow's May Day, my college's gigantic nude bacchanal, so naturally I turned to thinking about societal attitudes about sex and blahblahblah. I've actually had this theory for a while now though. I suspect I'm not the first to come up with it.
See, my purely speculative musings are based on some observations:
-I've never met a really, virulently homophobic woman. Or even a homophobic woman at all. They may exist, but I haven't encountered them.
-The "they're insecure about their own sexuality" explanation can't really be all of it, because it begs the question; it assumes that there's a psychological stigma on gayness to be insecure about to begin with. It's not an explanation so much as a postponement of explanation. I agree that the really psycho gay-haters are probably closet cases, but there's a certain latent discomfort with the idea in almost all straight men, I think.
-Cultural stigma can't be all of it, because the same traditions that condemn sodomy tend to also condemn numerous other things, none of which are seized upon so passionately as the gay bit.
So, my theory goes that, when straight guy meets gay guy, a quick, flawed logical process goes on in straight guy's head:
1. This guy likes to have sex with other guys.
2. Presumptively, in most other respects he is like a straight guy.
3. I, a straight guy, tend to think about sex a lot, especially when talking to women. If the conversation's boring, and especially if they're hot women, I'll tend to start trying to picture them sans clothing while I'm talking to them. At the very least, my eyes drift down to cleavage country. And a lot of guys do that, it's not just me.
4. On some level, I'm actually contemplating nailing them, even if I don't admit it to my more civilized parts.
5. From the perspective of my testicles, which do much of the thinking in these cases, it doesn't matter if said sex is entirely consensual. Not that I have rape fantasies, but the bottom line is, my biological urges just say to put my seed in something, end of story.
6. If push came to shove, and he could do it without any consequences, your average guy would gladly screw just about any woman who was not too ugly to arouse him. We're not picky.
7. Ergo, this guy I'm talking to is probably (on some level) thinking of me naked, thinking of himself putting it in me, and realizes that, as far as his id is concerned, I don't have to consent for him to enjoy it.
8. Extremely remote possibility that other man is considering raping me detected. Probability calculations/common sense aborted. Emergency mode. Attack!
Women, being generally ignorant of how horribly, horribly dirty our minds are, do not think this way around us for the most part. Plus they know that women generally need voluntary cooperation to get off anyway, so there's no need for them to fear lesbians.
This seems pretty obvious to me, but it doesn't seem to get much press compared to the self-loathing theories and suchlike. I realize that I'm a somewhat atypical specimen myself though. So, reflections?
See, my purely speculative musings are based on some observations:
-I've never met a really, virulently homophobic woman. Or even a homophobic woman at all. They may exist, but I haven't encountered them.
-The "they're insecure about their own sexuality" explanation can't really be all of it, because it begs the question; it assumes that there's a psychological stigma on gayness to be insecure about to begin with. It's not an explanation so much as a postponement of explanation. I agree that the really psycho gay-haters are probably closet cases, but there's a certain latent discomfort with the idea in almost all straight men, I think.
-Cultural stigma can't be all of it, because the same traditions that condemn sodomy tend to also condemn numerous other things, none of which are seized upon so passionately as the gay bit.
So, my theory goes that, when straight guy meets gay guy, a quick, flawed logical process goes on in straight guy's head:
1. This guy likes to have sex with other guys.
2. Presumptively, in most other respects he is like a straight guy.
3. I, a straight guy, tend to think about sex a lot, especially when talking to women. If the conversation's boring, and especially if they're hot women, I'll tend to start trying to picture them sans clothing while I'm talking to them. At the very least, my eyes drift down to cleavage country. And a lot of guys do that, it's not just me.
4. On some level, I'm actually contemplating nailing them, even if I don't admit it to my more civilized parts.
5. From the perspective of my testicles, which do much of the thinking in these cases, it doesn't matter if said sex is entirely consensual. Not that I have rape fantasies, but the bottom line is, my biological urges just say to put my seed in something, end of story.
6. If push came to shove, and he could do it without any consequences, your average guy would gladly screw just about any woman who was not too ugly to arouse him. We're not picky.
7. Ergo, this guy I'm talking to is probably (on some level) thinking of me naked, thinking of himself putting it in me, and realizes that, as far as his id is concerned, I don't have to consent for him to enjoy it.
8. Extremely remote possibility that other man is considering raping me detected. Probability calculations/common sense aborted. Emergency mode. Attack!
Women, being generally ignorant of how horribly, horribly dirty our minds are, do not think this way around us for the most part. Plus they know that women generally need voluntary cooperation to get off anyway, so there's no need for them to fear lesbians.
This seems pretty obvious to me, but it doesn't seem to get much press compared to the self-loathing theories and suchlike. I realize that I'm a somewhat atypical specimen myself though. So, reflections?
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