How many red flags do you have?

[Mr. President]

Originally posted by Spiffor
Wait wait wait. Does "red flag" mean something like "an unacceptable flaw, leave the man if he has any"?

I think so

[Az]

If so, that's a bunch of rubbish.

[Snotty]

3 before I got bored halfway through with all the whining!!

[Ecthy]

Whining, there I'm proven right. Most of those red flags are outright abuse, aggression and stuff. The others are just whining, but I can only repeat: what the hell are you guys doing to your women?

[C0ckney]

more than what you're doing by the sound it andy

[Az]

OOOOooooh, that's GOT to hurt!

[Lorizael]

What's great is that she lists a hundred fatal flaws that can make a man unnacceptable, and then at the end complains that men always think they have to jump through hoops. Oh the irony.

[Az]

Remember, if you have anything to say about this, you're just a loser.

[Lorizael]

well the perfect woman should love men even if i am a loser! waaaaaah.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Az

He sits in the car, honking the horn, or starts to drive away, while you are still in the house/apartment, trying to get ready to go out. He knows you aren't ready yet, but he goes out to the car anyway. He gets angry and frustrated if you aren't ready the instant HE is. Your life is expected to run on HIS schedule.

Hell yeah. Stupid *****es shout wear their ****ing makeup faster. It's not MY ****ing schedule, it's A schedule.

[Urban Ranger]

The list came from a site called "heartless *****es" and complains about men.

Will wonders ever cease?

[Mr. Harley]

Well, now those of us with two flags are 10% of the poll. She is a total perfectionist, and cuts no slack for anything. I noted she doesn't mention age - I know that prior to age 30 I DEFINITELY had more than two flags. Does she only date older men - which should be another red flag.

She also passes judgement on the average, not the actual person. She comments (one of my two flags when I got married and the only one that still applies)

He has ANY history of childhood abuse (abusive parents or siblings), ... and he hasn't been in YEARS of therapy (and I mean YEARS - like a decade or more, depending on his age), working through his issues. Men who were abused have a very strong tendency to become abusers. It takes many many years of therapy to overcome this, if they can at all.

Talked to a counselor/therapist where my wife got her first masters (at my insistance, to give her background on our relationship as present context for some issues - actually there affects - my wife had from her childhood). I painted her a picture of my childhood, and she asked me, "Forgive me for asking, but then how did you turn out so well." I explained to her that she hadn't really listened, I had a wonderful mother who got trapped by my sister's need for medical insurance.

You don't need years of therapy, you need to have had someone to hear you, to listen to you, and love you. Someone who is neglected that way, without the abuse - is infinitely worse off. This woman is ignorant, and worse a fool - she doesn't know what she doesn't know. And it doesn't take years of therapy, just a firm and total resolve that you will NEVER be that way. Very simply, and very hard. She doesn't have a clue, but she pontificates on it.

Red Flag 101 : She's such a perfectionist that less than 1 person in 10,000, if that, meets her critieria.

[Verres]

Sure, they are all pretty bad flaws I would moan to my mates about, and that could possibly form grounds for divorce at some point......but it's essential to date a man with flaws in order to feel better about yourself; and plus, women secretly love men who comform to some of these stereotypes on occassions. Makes them feel they have a proper 'relationship'.

[Pekka]

Oh look.. the stalker is back. Please stop sending your nude photos to me. Or at least buy some new lingerie, yes?

[Az]

Hi there, Verres.

So you say, basically, that you consider flaws "quaint"?