Porn documentary...

[Carolus Rex]

I just watched a swedish documentary on danish TV about teenagers' surfing habits with respect to porn, and how people that age are affected by it...

It also covered tha gap between parents' and their teenagers' knowledge about the Internet (what's out there and how you access it)... The parents in the program were at an enormous disadvantage; some didn't even know how to use computers at all...

i) Do you think that it's representative in general (ie that most parents are outsmarted by their children regarding computers and the Internet)?

ii) Do you think it is true when it comes to Apolytoners and their children (teenagers)?

iii) Do you think it's the fate of all older generations (past, current and future) to lag behind the younger ones when it comes to technological development and new gadgets? (I believe it was Douglas Adams who said that after 35 all innovations are completely incomprehensible)

Carolus

[Kuciwalker]

i) yes

ii) maybe, if they have children

iii) yes

[reds4ever]

Yes to all.

[C0ckney]

i can see this being a rather one sided poll.

[Jon Miller]

there are some old people, who are at least decent

and I would say that there are some 30 year olds and 40 year olds, who I have no advantage of whatsoever

and I am more tech savy then most my age

I think that it depends on the person

maybe it will be true that the best young person, will always be between then the best older one

and that the average younger person will be more savvy then the average older person

but saying that older people just can't get it is definitely wrong, same with saying that young people do get it...

?JM

[reds4ever]

Originally posted by C0ckney
i can see this being a rather one sided poll.

It's the way of the world, I'm an old tw@t and even I've got to admit thats the way it is

[Alexander's Horse]

i) eventually yes but not for kids below teen if you're computer literate

ii) no, because it depends on the level of parental supervision and knowledge

iii) yes and no - you get a level of comfort with technology but that doesn't mean you are stuck in a time warp - I have a mobile phone but I don't know how to text because I don't see a need for it. I could learn. Texting did however come in after I turned 35 .......

My oldest boy now goes on the internet to a site called mini-clip where he meets his friends to do medieval quests and stuff - I check the comp history to make sure he's not going elsewhere. I have ways to check even if the history is deleted.

I also set the google search to strict filtering, which is really quite effective for porn screening.

Their own computer is not online - I would have real difficulty with that.

I worry a lot about them being expose to porn because my friennds and I found some porn at quite a young age and it had very negative effects I think in terms of our personal growth.

[Carolus Rex]

Originally posted by C0ckney

i can see this being a rather one sided poll.

It's not really a poll and, besides, you're welcome to come up with your own answers to any of the questions (or your own questions!).

Or do you always need the answers to be given? Sigh, that multiple choice-generation...

Carolus

[Carolus Rex]

Originally posted by Kuciwalker

ii) maybe, if they have children

Well... I would guess that people active here are more experienced with the Internet than the average (but perhaps more so 5 or 6 years ago?)... But then again, so are probably the young...

Carolus

[Carolus Rex]

Originally posted by Alexander's Horse

I also set the google search to strict filtering, which is really quite effective for porn screening.

Yes, a lot in the program was about what to do to curb abuse; especially how to deal with perverted forms of porn (but who decides what the definition of that is?)...

A principal (headmaster?) at one swedish school said that the board had decided against using "Net Nannies"... They thought restrictions was the wrong way to go (+ it prevented many informative sites to be loaded)...

Originally posted by Alexander's Horse

I worry a lot about them being expose to porn because my friennds and I found some porn at quite a young age and it had very negative effects I think in terms of our personal growth.

Hm... I'm not biting...

Carolus

[Alexander's Horse]

I think it helps if you make internet a privilege rather than a right. We still use dial up so that helps police it.

You also have to factor in natural curiosity so some exploring at an appropriate age is not unhealthy or a hanging offence imo.

Perhaps the hardest thing to accept as a parent is you can create a safe loving home environment but you can't shield your kids from the ugly side of life.

[reds4ever]

Originally posted by Alexander's Horse

Perhaps the hardest thing to accept as a parent is you can create a safe loving home environment but you can't shield your kids from the ugly side of life.

[mrmitchell]

Sex isn't the ugly side of life. It is a beautiful thing. People think it's dirty because when they're kids they are hidden from it.

But AH has a point. Most sex on the internet is pretty ugly.

[FrostyBoy]

Let your children see softporn then.

[Alexander's Horse]

My oldest boy has a "girlfriend" named Glenn and they have a nice kind of school friendship which is age appropriate - maybe there's some kissing and holding hands involved but that's about it - it seems to be more about exploring the boy/girl thing - I wouldn't want that spoiled because it will be a happy memory for both of them later in life. Glenn is quite pretty.

Its weird when you have a boy and you meet a girl's parents because you want them to think you and your son "okay"