Oi women are teh confusing. 'Poly women mind translating for me?

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by boann

you hug your mother don't you..
don't you hug your brother and sister.
its no different to hug a friend.
sometimes you can't help how your body reacts
but you can help what you decide to do about it.

There's a difference 'tween giving someone a hug and lying in a bed cuddling.

And no, I don't hug my siblings.

[boann]

Originally posted by Last Conformist
Holding one another is about as physical as human interaction gets!

of course holding and cuddling is physical

i wrote that its not JUST PHYSICAL
which means it is physical as well as emotional and spiritual.

cuddling is comforting..
you want to reach a womans heart..
then that is the way...
its no secret... except from "animals"
who don't care about love and comfort
only satisfing their physical urges

[KrazyHorse]

Space, next time she does that to you start kissing her. If she pulls away, tell her that you're uncomfortable with so much physical contact if she doesn't want anything sexual out of it.

And that's for real.

[KrazyHorse]

Neither is sex "just physical". What's your point?

[Kuciwalker]

Originally posted by Bosh
You're a cuddle *****. You are ****ed, oh so very very ****ed

The problem is that he's not ****ed.

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by boann

cuddling is comforting..

To you, maybe. To cuddle with someone who's just a friend would freak me out.

you want to reach a womans heart..
then that is the way...
its no secret... except from "animals"
who don't care about love and comfort
only satisfing their physical urges

Thinking that something is too physical to do with a friend is indicative of only caring about physical urges? Explain that again, please.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Originally posted by Last Conformist
I can.
Being comfortable doesn't require cuddling.

Ok I am going to have to ask you definiton of cuddling because we might have different views of this idea. Mine includes lying in the same bed maybe on the crook of his arm or his arm sitting on your waist thats my idea of cuddling with my male friends.

[Gibsie]

I can't be bothered to read through a hundred posts about the former Barrow-boy's lovelife... is he getting laid yet or not?

[boann]

well we were talking about friends.
not family anyway..
and we are talking about being single
and having a "friend" cuddle with you.
and what that actually means.

besides just asking her what it means to her.
which is the most perfect thing to do.

the fact remains that when a woman cuddles a male friend.. shes not nessasarily looking for sex when she does cuddle..

and the "possibilty" of something more than friendship is there or she would not consider you cuddle material.



is that clear as mud

[Az]

Space, next time she does that to you start kissing her. If she pulls away, tell her that you're uncomfortable with so much physical contact if she doesn't want anything sexual out of it.

And that's for real.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

First off nobody has mentioned spooning as cuddling. Second if you have known the guy for a long time whats wrong with that. Third it could be the girl just needs and wants to be held and not screwed for once. If space is unvcomfortable then he needs to speak up if not and is ok with "cuddling" with out the boner then why should he not comfort this girl??? I am sure most of you guys think she is playing a game but in reality she enjoys his company and is a bit on the touchy feely side.

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski

Ok I am going to have to ask you definiton of cuddling because we might have different views of this idea. Mine includes lying in the same bed maybe on the crook of his arm or his arm sitting on your waist thats my idea of cuddling with my male friends.

Mine appears to be close to Imran's - lying in the same bed, holding one another continually. Just laying on someone's arm isn't cuddling, tho still highly intimate a thing to do with a just-a-friend.

[Agathon]

If you are confused Space, tell her so. Tell her that you would like to have sex, or at least that you've been thinking about it.

The worst that can happen is that she can say no.

[KrazyHorse]

Make the move first, discuss it later.

Take the initiative.

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
First off nobody has mentioned spooning as cuddling.

Imran did.

Second if you have known the guy for a long time whats wrong with that.

Consenting adults and all that. I'm not saying it's "wrong" in any general sense, just that I'd find it weird and disturbing.

Third it could be the girl just needs and wants to be held and not screwed for once.

It didn't seem she was looking for a shoulder to cry on from Space's description.

If space is unvcomfortable then he needs to speak up if not and is ok with "cuddling" with out the boner then why should he not comfort this girl???

Space may engage in whatever perverted acts he wants for all I care - doesn't change that I wouldn't be comfortable with the situation.