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[Pyrodrew]

Originally posted by boann
well i just hate to break it to ya..
but girls cuddle each other.. jezzz..

Don't tease me, I demand to see pics.

[boann]

Originally posted by MrFun
I always thought of bisexuality as a sexual orientation in the same light as homosexulaity and heterosexuality, in that none of these three can be changed.

I admit, I don't understand everything about bisexuality so if someone knows more, and wants to fill me in . . . . .

ive had some experiences with women friends.
but i don't consider myself bisexual because ive
only fallen in love with men. ive never fallen in love
with a woman...

but i don't know if thats how other people define it.

[boann]

Originally posted by Pyrodrew


Don't tease me, I demand to see pics.

oh brother.. go see "sisterhood of the jeans"

[Lancer]

*coughphilippinescough*

[Colon™]

Next winter

[Lancer]

Maybe...well you can certainly. If I get to be a security guy I'll have to stick around this coming winter, go the following.

[Barinthus]

Originally posted by boann
"there is a narrow window of opportunity in most cases where you have a chance to be a romantic interest or you slide into the friends zone."

do you guys honestly believe this load of crap

It's accurate - I'm a walking proof.

When I was younger I was a complete wuss with women. I took it slow and easy so we could get to know each other and all of that. Then when I'm ready to make a move it's "Aww I was interested before but you never made a move and now I love you too much as a brother."

One or two times, that's fine. Not every friggin' time.

Now that I'm much older and wiser, I've learned that in order to actually have a relationship (not just boinking, but a real boyfriend-girlfriend relationship) I have to be assertive and move quickly before her interest shift to 'brother.'

My problem is I have a face of an altarboy which some girls do like but if I am not assertive they wind up thinking I'm too nice or some garbage like that. If I move fast and give them some taste of my 'darker' side they're hooked

[Imran Siddiqui]

but girls cuddle each other.. jezzz..

That's just one step below softcore porn .

I think Mrs. Tubs comment that she wouldn't feel that comfortable cuddling with a guy being married to someone else to be very telling. If you can't do something with a friend of the opposite sex when you are dating someone else, then most likely when you are doing it to a friend of the opposite sex while single is leading them on.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui

but girls cuddle each other.. jezzz..

That's just one step below softcore porn .

I think Mrs. Tubs comment that she wouldn't feel that comfortable cuddling with a guy being married to someone else to be very telling. If you can't do something with a friend of the opposite sex when you are dating someone else, then most likely when you are doing it to a friend of the opposite sex while single is leading them on.

While you are correct in some sense, isnt it up to the guy or gal to decide if they are willing to do these things. I think as long as she is upfront which she has been so far. There is nothing wrong if space is willing to be ok with what they are doing. If he has a problem then he needs to stop it. I still say there is nothing wrong with two SINGLE adults that are friends and are ok with snuggling. For one neither one of them have anybody to answer to number two its up to either party to draw the boundries. If there are no boundries drawn then its time for a new talk.

[KrazyHorse]

Don't get me wrong here, Mrs. T

I don't think there's anything "wrong" morally with two people making physical contact who don't want to have sex.

My concern is for space, who seems to want more.

If he does, then being put in that situation is emasculating. "I'll **** other guys but just want to hug you". If he wants her, then I don't think it's healthy for him to be snuggling up with her when she's not willing to go further.

[Jon Miller]

I agree with Imran here

there is human closeness, I think

but it too often, especially in our oversexed society, becomes something else, or has overtones of something else

I think a decent number of those who claim to be bisexual are just mistaking feelings of human closeness (to be noted, I don't beleive in bisexuality, as an inherent sexuality, like I beleive homosexuality and heterosexuality to be, and I have been proven right in my beleifs on every occasion (I told Asher he was gay when he said he was bisexual)

as far as it goes.. it does seem to me to be stranger to engage in activities with members of the same sex, then with the opposite sex (if you are not in love with them) but is likely because of my judeochristian background

JM
(and Boann, I find it strange that many women don't count their encounters with other women as sexual encounters.. do you include them with your total (something like ~8 partners, about half ones you were in love with and half not, if I remember right))

(I am interested just because of not knowing many women your age, and I always like to know more expereinces to correct and modify my view of the universe)

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse
Don't get me wrong here, Mrs. T

I don't think there's anything "wrong" morally with two people making physical contact who don't want to have sex.

My concern is for space, who seems to want more.

If he does, then being put in that situation is emasculating. "I'll **** other guys but just want to hug you". If he wants her, then I don't think it's healthy for him to be snuggling up with her when she's not willing to go further.

I agree

it is playing with his mind..

and pulling him out of the field for others.. who might make him happy

JM

[Mrs. Tuberski]

I dont she at that way. Space Knows how she feels. He doesnt have to take himself off the market to be her friend. While he is lookin around he can still enjoy time with this girl even if it isnt going anywhere. If he is truly in love with her then he needs to put his foot down and stop what is happening and tell her point blank that hey i am in love with you and i cant do this anymore.

[Agathon]

Do the Top Gun thing, Space.

It will work....

[Imran Siddiqui]

If he has a problem then he needs to stop it.

Did you even pause to read the original post?

I still say there is nothing wrong with two SINGLE adults that are friends and are ok with snuggling. For one neither one of them have anybody to answer to number two its up to either party to draw the boundries.

The problem is invariably that the man is thinking something more is happening than the woman is in that situation. The woman usually doesn't set the boundaries and the man feels lead on and eventually gets pissed.

I've seen it enough times.