i know now what i must do,

[self biased]

and the more i think about this, the more ideas i get and want to use. so as a last resort to hopefully settle my restless mind on this subject, i ask for your advice apolyton.

i am going to ask my girlfriend to marry me.

at first i wanted to doso in front of friends and family, but that would add undue pressure. then i wanted something private and just me and her, traditional style. then i thought of the trick presentation of the ring option, and now i'm all sorts of confused.

help me.

[DeathByTheSword]

damn where did you get that ring?....but i would say go for the traditional on one knees do you want to marry me with ring in one hand thingy

[alva]

Good luck mate!!



EDIT: Keep it simple, real life is not a tv show...

[DeathByTheSword]

oh yes and ofcourse good luck

[self biased]

ebay, actually. it's a modest tenth of a carat for the diamond, but i like style of the ring. it's a vintage piece from the forties in fourteen karat white gold.

[DeathByTheSword]

oh so the diamond is inlarged? i though this was true size ...pretty nice ring:

but ok again the advice:

dont do the infront of a lot of people thing...like you said pressure

surprise with putting ring somewhere always fun but a bit overdone in like every movie there is

the traditional way of proposing makes you look mature and she might forget about you being on poly that much and loving civ when she is thinking of an answer

[self biased]

actually, my poly and civ habit is negligible when compared to my wargaming habit. i'm more waiting for some of the married codgers to relate some anecdotes, though.

[Kontiki]

I just did a very simple proposal, but timed it so that we were in Bermuda and I scoped out a really romantic spot to do it before hand. I didn't get down on one knee, and certainly didn't do it in front of anyone else, but that's just us - neither of us would have gone for some cheesy public proposal.

Good luck!

[Kuciwalker]

I thought you knew better, sb

[Japher]

you two haven't been together all that long have you?

anyway,

if it's right it's right

[duke o' york]

Put the ring on, turn invisible, and then take it off and propose! Her acceptance will save you from Sauron's dark power!
Seriously, just ask her on her own. If she's from "that kind" of culture, then ask her father/parents first, but don't ask her while they're present. And good luck!

[Japher]

I agree with duke, keep it private

what if she says no? the you'll be all embaressed and we'd laugh at you twice as much

[self biased]

it's been a year, japher. hard to believe that it's only been a year, and yet it seems like we've always been together. her parent's blessings don't reall factor into this. she doesn't really like them, and is the black sheep of the family.

[chequita guevara]

Do it in private, don't put pressure on her or risk public humiliation.

[Lancer]

Do it in front of one of those big TVs at the mall, you know the one with the camera showing people walking by... Anyway, position yourself and your gf so you both fill the screen. Get down on one knee and present the ring...ask for her hand.

If she laughs in your face and rejects you, ripping out your heart and dashing it to the ground, stomping it with great glee, just point at the camera and say, "honey, you've been PUNKED!"

Works everytime.