"Oh, no! The kid is vomitous and I'm 300 miles away???"

[JohnT]

Originally posted by MRT144
good father vs providing father

Meh, I'm there all the time for Sophie. You can't guilt me.

Anyway, her mother wanted to be a stay at home mom and that is exactly what she is. While I'm involved with Sophie to a degree that few men are, there are sometimes when the reptilian (i.e., "guy") part of my brain says

Spoiler:

You're the woman. You take care of it. Sophie's your job, see? I'm doing my half, now you're being called to duty on your half. Deal with it, and see ya tomorrow.

Most of the time you bite your tongue and cheerfully pitch in 'cause it won't get done if you don't help. But this time... this time, I'm off scotch-free.

[MRT144]

do you really think you should revell in that fact you dont have to deal with it?

[JohnT]

This is the first time in 3.5 years that I haven't had to deal with something like this. Being human, yeah, I'm pretty relieved that I don't have... nay, can't... be in the same house with two complaining and/or sick ladies.

And honestly, it's not as if Sophie's ill. She just ate some bad pizza. She was even playing on her jungle gym this afternoon.

[Tuberski]

Originally posted by MRT144
do you really think you should revell in that fact you dont have to deal with it?

You obviously don't have children.

ACK!

[Asmodean]

Of course, If it's nothing more than food poisoning, then work is more important. I'm with you there, JT.

Being a father myself, I'd still feel miserable, though

Asmodean

[Pekka]

My view, being a non-father is that it's better to keep the bucks rolling in, since being in business trip anyway and being able to come back then as soon as possible. How is it going to help to make business more difficult, when you are able to participate usually all the time? Nah... teh good father vs providing father is when the providing father never even sees the kid and they grow apart.

[Zkribbler]

Originally posted by JohnT
She just ate some bad pizza.

Bite your tongue! There's no such thing!

BTW: How'd an ugly guy like you have such a good-lookin' kid? She's a real CuteT.

[MRT144]

i grew up in a house where my dad was away on business A HELL OF A LOT. first it was places in the US, then overseas, then places in the US again. He did it for the money but he is terrible with money so i never saw a net effect of his work, only the downsides.

god as my witness im going to be there for my kid when my kid needs it the most.

[Zkribbler]

Originally posted by MRT144
god as my witness im going to be there for my kid when my kid needs it the most.

I hope you can keep that promise. But it's hard.

I remember once, my dad got laid off during an economic downturn when we lived in Santa Maria (3 hours north of L.A.) The nearest job he could get was in El Centro, down by the Mexican border. He would drive home every weekend (5-6 hours, one way) to be with the family. After several months, things picked up and he got a local job.

Sometime a man's got to do what a man's got to do. It's great if you can be with your family. But you gotta pay the mortgage and put food on the table.

[MRT144]

which is why i wouldnt want to have kids before im ready to be able to be in a position to have a career.

[JohnT]

Not too sure what that last sentence meant, MRT, but let's not forget that it is the career that's keeping me away from Sophie. If I were unemployed, I'd have all the time in the world to take care of her.

However, I am providing for her, even when I'm down here. Sophie has a wonderful, loving mother who is there for her 24/7. Her Godparents (Aunt and Uncle) are both doctors, one a GP the other a gastroentro... ist (stomach and pipes) and live but 5 miles away. And Knoxville is home to no less than 5 regional hospitals with 2,600 beds (more than twice per capita than, say, Los Angeles County).

So she's got her mom with her 24/7, a strong extended family support system, and a strong local medical system. Sophie is going to be just fine.

Anyway, I'll be back today... probably by 3:00pm this afternoon, so the entire point will be moot.

[Dr Strangelove]

I'm sorry, I have to say this. There's no such word as "vomitous". Sophie might haver been vomiting. The stuff she vomits is called vomitus.

[JohnT]

Oh, I know.


... after I posted, of course.

[Dr Strangelove]

Ok I understand. It's just been nagging at me all weekend long.

[Zkribbler]

Originally posted by Dr Strangelove
There's no such word as "vomitous".

There is now.

Just as there is no noun that cannot be verbed, there is no verb that cannot be adjectived.