The Co-Habitation thread.

[Alexander's Horse]

I have the fullsize picture somewhere......

[Mr. Harley]

Horsey's and Choo-choo's. She loves the beginning of "Hello, Dolly."

[Dinner]

Rufus that sounds like some pretty good advice.

Everyone else thanks for the ideas and suggestions. I'm going with the to early crowd though we haven't talked about it yet. She's the one who brought up the idea of moving in together so I'm just going to wait and see if she brings it up again and if she does (which I expect her to do) then I'm going to have to tell her I love her but I'm not ready to move in together. Maybe later but not now. I don't want to be the guy that shacks up to soon and then has the ex-girlfriend still living with him or trying to figure out who gets which of the stuff, etc..

[Alexander's Horse]

attaboy

[JimmyCracksCorn]

I live with my girlfriend. We moved in together after less than a year together. Its been about 3 years now, and no significant problems. But it could have easily been a distaster, so no I wouldn't recommend it to everyone.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Tingkai
One of my friends in Canada had been seeing a guy for about a year. He moves into her place. She kicks him out after 5 1/2 months cause it ain't working out and if he stayed more than six months, he'd have a claim on her place as a common-law partner.

What's right, what's wrong? Hard to say. Only you can say what is right for you.

Tingkai

That is not a correct statement of the Canadian common law and would only be correct in any particular province that had a statute that granted such rights.

The common law does acknowledge some rights for a cohabitant "equivalent to spouse " but such cases have usually involved much longer relationships where it would be seen as "unjust" fro one party to retain all the assets.

Unmarried folks make the mistake all the time of thinking that all the legal consequences are the same as being married if they cohabitate for some specified period of time, but it just isn't so.

[Flubber]

On the question

It might work out if you move in now but I wouldn't do it quite yet.

I cohabitated twice.

The first time after a year and we ended up together for about 5 years before it fell apart.

The second time was more interesting since I started dating a woman on her trip home to newfoundland from her job in Texas. So we dated a bit and then I visited her in Texas for a week. The a month later her dad passed away so she was back in newfoundland for another 2 months. Since her family lived 4 hours drive from me, she spent a lot of time at my house. She ended up moving back but she got her own place. It was a bit of a waste since she slept there only a couple of times ( I owned a 4 bedroom house alone). After we had been seeing each other a little over a year I had her move in. Married 3 years now ( Together for 6 overall) with one child and another on the way)

Oh and under applicable laws, she obtained ZERO ownership interest in my house by living there. As the lawyer in the family, I was certain of that

[Dinner]

In California you have to cohabitate for 24 months before you are considered to have a common law marriage.

[asleepathewheel]

I don't think that California allows common law marriages.

few do, these days.

http://www.ncsl.org/programs/cyf/commonlaw.htm

[Alexander's Horse]

Originally posted by shawnmmcc
Now you need to email me the full size picture of you "Horsey" because my little girl likes it. You are the only poster she can identify. XXXshawnmmcc at insightbb dot comXXX

here it is - looks rather good full size but maybe not suitable for little kids

[Mr. Harley]

She likes the horsey. I cannot wait to play SMAC with her as a team.

[Kidlicious]

Show your daughter Commie Kitten. Maybe Che still has the pic.

[Alexander's Horse]

the horse looks smarter than the rider

[Frankychan]

Originally posted by TCO
Give it a shot. You don't want to end up old and single and bitter like me.

Word.

(although I'm still in my mid 20's. Risk is what makes life interesting.)

[Alexander's Horse]

Originally posted by Oerdin
In California you have to cohabitate for 24 months before you are considered to have a common law marriage.

Okay - let her move in for 23 months and 30 days