The Co-Habitation thread.

[Dinner]

OK, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for about nine weeks, and I considered it way to early to start thinking about moving in together, however she has suggested we do just that. I have my own house and I'm currently looking for a house mate or two but I'm not really sure if 9 weeks into a relationship is the right time to commit to something this serious. Of course she is paying way to much for her room and one of her house mates is a total slobby ***** who makes snide comments every time my girlfriend brings friends over but just because it is convent doesn't mean it makes sense.

The GF housemate used to make sharp comments when I would stay over but after I started making comments back to her and started ripping on her she started to leave me alone. Not the most mature solution but an effective solution none the less. OK, so the million dollar question. Who here has cohabitated and did it turn out well? How long were you dating before you started cohabitating and do you have any regrets about doing so? I do love my girlfriend and I do see things progressing in the future but right now we're still in the puppy love stag so I don't want to make any rash moves. Yes, it would be financially better for us, and it would be a nice pre-marriage training, but I'm not sure I want to get married. Heaven forbid we should break up and we already have all of our things intermingled.

[Drake Tungsten]

After nine weeks? Are you out of your mind?

edit: OK, after reading the rest of your post, I find you have an appropriate amount of reticence. Sorry about the above; I felt I had to warn you as soon as possible...

[KrazyHorse]

Too early dude.

If you break up with her you then have to continue to see her every day.

[BeBMan]

Wait until you break up, then move in together .....

[Dinner]

That's my feeling; to early. For those of you who have co-habitated how long did it go on before you took the plunge?

[Mrs. Tuberski]

tubes and me
talked for about 4 months phone and internet spent a week together and then a week apart, after that he moved here. We have been living together every since. And we are not legally married

[Kidlicious]

Co-habitating is taking the plunge. It's way too early. You better know you can trust her first. 9 weeks isn't enough, especially since you hinted that you would be doing it for financial reasons.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

I forgot to add we have been together for 4 years now and gowing strong, if you dont want to get into the deep relationship make it a roomate deal

[Alexander's Horse]

don't ever let a girl move in with you - I let Mrs horse move in with me and she wouldn't leave - 12 years later she's still telling me to leave....

[child of Thor]

Oerdin, if you and her click then where's the harm? Heck you've even mentioned the 'M' word!

That would say to me that your pretty keen on her, easily keen enough to share a place. If it helps you both out in making your relationship easier(no annoying flat mate), then why not go for it?

My current gf moved in with me after 1 week - we just got on well, and i knew deep down we'd make it work. So far so good(3+years and counting). Of course i wasn't sure about it at first, i liked my space etc. But in the end love is a rare commodity to find, so dont let it slip you by dude.

Fortune favours the brave as they say

EDIT: are you maybe just worried she'll give you a hard time over beer cans being left around etc?

good luck to both of you - the world needs more love

[SpencerH]

Spent a week together in spain (met in Frankfurt). Wrote and phoned for a couple of months. Then spent a month together in Stockholm. Wrote and phoned for a couple of months. Then got married in Motala (Sweden). That was 25 years ago.

OTOH, if you have to think about this stuff (ie you're unsure) maybe you should wait.

[JohnT]

"Who here has cohabitated and did it turn out well? "

Yes. We've been married ten years, co-habitated before that for three-four years.

"How long were you dating before you started cohabitating and do you have any regrets about doing so?"

Four years and no.

[JohnT]

Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
tubes and me
talked for about 4 months phone and internet spent a week together and then a week apart, after that he moved here. We have been living together every since. And we are not legally married

You are if you pass yourself off as *being* married, Mrs Tuberski.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Re: The Co-Habitation thread.

Originally posted by Oerdin
OK, so the million dollar question. Who here has cohabitated and did it turn out well? How long were you dating before you started cohabitating and do you have any regrets about doing so?

Started co-habiting with Mrs Gimp after we'd been going out for two years. Cohabited for two years. Married eight years and counting.

[Barinthus]

IMHO, 9 weeks is too early. But again I never had cohabitated with any of my exs so...