Well, thats the end of that

[MRT144]

well thats part of it. Im not shocked, and being vindicated on that is a good, good feeling. I knew it was going to happen despite denials. and i was right. silver lining i guess

[Mr. Harley]

MRT - sorry to hear about that. One piece of advice I give anyone who has a breakup. Figure out what attracted you to her, and why. That way, you do not make the same mistake again.

Were you attracted to her because she was hot? She was readily available for sex? She was good at being "poor little ol' me."? etc. Did you find out enough about who she really was before you started committing yourself? Did you blind yourself to some flaws that you minimized early on - often due to the intense sex aspect of early relationships? If you do not figure out how you got into a bad relationship, either too fast, ignoring clues, you are attracted to this kind of woman, etc. - you are going to do it again.

Take some time out and look at what you really want. I started this soul searching at 29, after the break-up of a five year relationship I should never have been in. I was soooo stupid. And she was neither hot, nor really very good sex. I've been reexamining myself ever since.

[MRT144]

spot on shawnmmcc. On the other hand i am 21 and this is just lifes little experience.

[St Leo]

Revenge is wrong.

Chill.

[sprucemoose3311]

Sorry for what happened...


you have to completely break ties off MRT, keeping ties gives her power over you. instead of you making the decision, she did, she can now keep you on the chain for whenever she wants. her interest level in you will never reach the same levels they once did. cutting her off completely will help you in both the short run and the long run. take charge, dont let the prospect of nighttime activity or rekindling emotional bonds be dangled in front of you like a carrot. Just be free

[The Emperor Fabulous]

MRT: I am completely with you on this one. If she comes back to you, its great, but it shouldn't keep you from doing your thing.

I just had my exgirlfriend kiss someone else in front of me, someone I really cared for (the ex, that is). It hurts, but you gotta get past it.

[Provost Harrison]

Originally posted by MRT144
Im taking oerdins advice and working on myself

Well, that's what I have to do

[Gibsie]

Well, sorry to hear this, although it didn't exactly sound like the kind of relationship that was going to go the whole way. Still, at least you must know a tonne of slutty chicks to help you get over her?

[Pekka]

MRT144, you did the right thing man... don't look back. It'll feel crap for some days to come, but take this advice as something you can trust on, don't look back, and you did the right thing of saying it how it is to her. Cheaters prize is death.

[Lul Thyme]

Wow.
All the relations Ive been in ended in a sort of slow mutual recognition that it wasnt working.
Ive never had my trust completly broken like that.
Must be hard.

Anyway, you know you should just let it go, or else you'll just get hurt again.

[self biased]

Originally posted by MRT144
spot on shawnmmcc.

he usually is. he even counseled me in a rough spot about this time last year. i guess it's true of what they say: beware the ides of march.

but... just blew two dudes? the most appalling thing for me is that she saw the need to decieve you, instead of being straightforeward and honest with her intentions. the sexual side doesn't really even play into it.

there's also the fact that the company is called "broken home productions." this is merely speculation on my behalf, but given the market that some of these sites cater to, you may well have been set up.

on that note, though, i'm glad you thought things through without doing anything rash. best of luck in your newly enlightened life.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

If you ask me this relationship has been a whole lot one sided On her part she can do what she wants but what F*** you if you do the things she has also done Dunno if you can handle that in a relationship then all the power to ya.

[self biased]

nice use of past tense, mrs. t. just another case of a man having the wool yanked over his eyes by the woman he loves. age old, classic story. what's even better is that there seem to be ever new and inventive ways for things like this to happen, as well as the old standbies.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

Call me a stick in the mud but learning my girl just finished blowing two dudes wouldnt make me the happiest camper at camp.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by JohnT
So, you get involved with some chick who gets you to have three-somes with other men (but no women), gets you involved in the porn industry, and insists that you "stay away" from situations involving sex (and I assume drugs/alcohol?)... right?

And you're surprised and angry that this ended badly? What, exactly, did you expect?

**** YOU AND **** DINODOC

Judgemental bastards.