Anyone else here is also single and doesn't like it?

[Sirotnikov]

Well, I'm alone for quite a while now.

Things didn't workout with my g/f shortly before the military, and we broke up. She later wanted to try again but I refused.

Then I had a short time of fun - meeting new people and even dating a bit. But that ended in the military.

Today I work long hours with a fixed group of people, and even though I meet lots of girls there, it is problematic since they are either taken or fall for older guys. (my unit is small and varied in the age groups ranging from 18 to 22 (the older commanders are irrelevant). Not to mention it is a very difficult environment since rumors and gossip travel faster than a rocket on its way to a terrorist.

I usually only have time to go 'out' on weekends or rarely during the week. But there are several problems:

1) I'm quite poor. Army salary doesn't help.

2) Don't have a driver's lisence yet ("My dad will pick us up, ok?") because I spent my money on the SATs I took before the military, and I don't have time to take the courses now anyway.

3) My friends circle has become small. I no longer find my self invited to huge "frat-like" parties at people's houses, where you could drink, chat and such.

Most times going out means meeting the same people - either my male friends or my female friends who aren't options (really - they aren't. I dated one before, and the other one is not suitable for it).

Alot of time I feel like I'm wasting my time going 'out' with my female friends when I should attempt really dating and picking up chicks.

But I'm too "skeptical" either about my chances or about the girls. I have quite high demands and I almost turned down my previous g/f because I wasn't sure about her. I tend to think about each girl - would we manage having a normal relationship? And usually I find reasons why not - so I just do nothing.


So while I got excited about some girls during the first several months of military service - by now I'm pretty numb to it.

I keep thinking that I just don't have the time, money or car needed to have a relationship right now. And it sucks since I feel I need one.



So, am I the only one not getting any?

[Space05us]

Anyone else here is also single and doesn't like it?

Why, you thinking about throwing a party

[Asher]

So, am I the only one not getting any?

Please...this is a gaming site. Of course not.

[Gibsie]

Just think for a second: You're asking a message board full of civ-lovers if we're single and don't like it.

I'm single and I'm undecided about whether I like it or not. Having had my relationship of four years end at Christmas (Love the message from her in my Xmas card- "Hope you have the best Christmas ever!") I've been enjoying a lot of time doing whatever the hell I liked for me, plus my life has moved on. I am meeting quite a few girls, but they either tend to be taken, skanky, or just not interested. I think I'd make do with a compromise right now, just some cheap sex'll do

[Sirotnikov]

Gibsie- well, yeah - I felt like that at first.

But then I stopped meeting new girls or stopped meeting new girls that I could do something with.

And I have almost no time to 'hang out' during the week.

Most of the girls I meet at work are from other parts of Israel, so when I go back to Haifa, I don't meet them. And i'm carless as I've already said.


Asher - yes, the intention was to get some cheap comfort that way

Space - Er.... if you're inviting to your place

[Immortal Wombat]

Look on the bright side: relationships are expensive, time-consuming, complicated and eventually, inevitably, painful. High cost of input, low benefit of output. Single == good.

[MarkG]

Anyone else here is also single and doesn't like it?

if you start to like it, you should really be concerned about yourself

[Sirotnikov]

Originally posted by Immortal Wombat
Look on the bright side: relationships are expensive, time-consuming, complicated and eventually, inevitably, painful. High cost of input, low benefit of output. Single == good.

Yes, well that is nice. That's exactly what I'm telling myself.

Porn is cheaper than sex too. Even 'free' sex involves a dinner and a movie.

But its annoying in so many ways.

[Spiffor]

Back when I was a hopeless late virgin, I rationalized it so much that I even believed I liked it

The feeling melted instantly the day I was in bed with my gf though

[Immortal Wombat]

Ignore those ways.

[Gibsie]

Originally posted by Immortal Wombat
Look on the bright side: relationships are expensive, time-consuming, complicated and eventually, inevitably, painful. High cost of input, low benefit of output. Single == good.

Great outlook! Although I have to ask: are you saying this as someone who's single and happy with it, or someone who's actually got a partner?

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Sirotnikov
Space - Er.... if you're inviting to your place

Advice: even if he invites you, and even if he bribes you with 100$, DO NOT go to his place

[Sirotnikov]

Originally posted by Spiffor

Advice: even if he invites you, and even if he bribes you with 100$, DO NOT go to his place

I was under the impression he is throwing a party... for many people.... most of them hot babes.

Damn.

Got 'hit' by space05.

[Spiffor]

Nono, don't get me wrong. Space is a nice guy, and he could even trhow a party if there were enough people in his village. I think.

For the matter, here's what his village looks like:


(the northermost town of the map)

[Sirotnikov]

Reminds me of mother russia *tears*