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Yep I'm proud to join the ranks of those folks who ask for love advice on 'Poly. 
I have a situation and I'm curious what you guys have to say.
Last Halloween I met this hot chick and we hit it off. After a while I determined that she was much older than me. It's not an issue for me but it may play a factor in what's going on.
Anyway to make a long story short, here's several points:
She's in the States on a visa and has been trying to get a green card.
She's in her 30s. She also claimed that out of all men she was with, I'm the only one whom she can truly enjoy certain adult x-rated activities and actually have big 'O's. It's a nice compliment and certainly an ego boost. However it doesn't make my situation any easier.
As time goes by, I'm starting to find her more and more annoying. Now I'm no longer interested in being in a relationship with her.
Right now she's in Ohio until May for a theatre production tour. If you haven't defered this yet, she's a stage actress.
She will be in my area as a part of her tour in mmm March I believe.
I definitely want to get out of this relationship. That's my problem - I was never too good at breaking up. I usually wait for her to break it up. Much easier that way since it'd be mutual. But with this girl, I seriously doubt that she will initate the break-up. She told me about this guy she used to date - after three months she wanted out but he kept crying and crying so she felt bad and stayed with him. She finally left him three years later. So it's clear to me that I have to do the dirty work here.
Yes I'm an emotional sissy or whatever you want to call it. I'm too sensitive for my good.
My options as I see it are:
A. Break up now. However the only method of communication we have is email. I feel that's kind of harsh - breaking up via an email. I want to give her as much of an enclosure as possible to help her to move on. She can be rather dramatic. She's an actress after all!
B. Wait until she's in town for her tour and before we do anything naughty, tell her how I feel. The downside is that I know she'd be very excited to see me. So this'd be unexpected bad news for her. Probably mess up her acting.
C. Wait until the entire tour is over and tell her once she's back into the town. Seems like the best option.
No matter what choice I make, I predict a lot of drama. Sigh.
I have a situation and I'm curious what you guys have to say.
Last Halloween I met this hot chick and we hit it off. After a while I determined that she was much older than me. It's not an issue for me but it may play a factor in what's going on.
Anyway to make a long story short, here's several points:
She's in the States on a visa and has been trying to get a green card.
She's in her 30s. She also claimed that out of all men she was with, I'm the only one whom she can truly enjoy certain adult x-rated activities and actually have big 'O's. It's a nice compliment and certainly an ego boost. However it doesn't make my situation any easier.
As time goes by, I'm starting to find her more and more annoying. Now I'm no longer interested in being in a relationship with her.
Right now she's in Ohio until May for a theatre production tour. If you haven't defered this yet, she's a stage actress.
She will be in my area as a part of her tour in mmm March I believe.
I definitely want to get out of this relationship. That's my problem - I was never too good at breaking up. I usually wait for her to break it up. Much easier that way since it'd be mutual. But with this girl, I seriously doubt that she will initate the break-up. She told me about this guy she used to date - after three months she wanted out but he kept crying and crying so she felt bad and stayed with him. She finally left him three years later. So it's clear to me that I have to do the dirty work here.
Yes I'm an emotional sissy or whatever you want to call it. I'm too sensitive for my good.
My options as I see it are:
A. Break up now. However the only method of communication we have is email. I feel that's kind of harsh - breaking up via an email. I want to give her as much of an enclosure as possible to help her to move on. She can be rather dramatic. She's an actress after all!
B. Wait until she's in town for her tour and before we do anything naughty, tell her how I feel. The downside is that I know she'd be very excited to see me. So this'd be unexpected bad news for her. Probably mess up her acting.
C. Wait until the entire tour is over and tell her once she's back into the town. Seems like the best option.
No matter what choice I make, I predict a lot of drama. Sigh.
ACK!
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