You are exactly right. You know why he continues to cheat? Because he believed you are soft on him. And he was right, you have been soft. Quietly nudging and "almost caught" does nothing. If he doesn't face real consequence, he won't feel the need to stop.
He has not talked to me and tried to get the cheating dealt with quietly. It is unfair to accuse somebody of something that he didn't do. All he said in his PM, is that he is willing to change. When I have obtained his permission, I will post his PM here.
The two options you listed.
The first one, to go silent and let Engima keep on cheating. This has never been an option for me. For the exact reason you stated.
The second one, to disclose Engima's cheating and watch as the community throws him out.
It is only fair to disclose his cheating. But I will not watch as the community throws him out and then leave myself because of guilt. I'll stand by and help him to fight the bad habit.
Fighting a habit is hard. I have seen people trying to quit smoking. I have seen people trying to leave Poly (myself included). It is hard. Help is needed. Of course help means more work. Watching constantly is a heck lot of work. But that's what a CMN does. If one does not want that responsibility, he simply chooses not to be a CMN. Cheating is not Engima's specialty. In last ACDG we have had cheating accusations flying around. A CMN has to carry out his responsibility no matter if Engima is in the game or not. If the players of a game is proved to be trustworthy, it is acceptable that the CMN checks less often. And if Engima has proved that he cannot fight his bad habit, then he will receive the punishment that nobody wants to play with him. It is this clear cut. Where is any doubt?
He has not talked to me and tried to get the cheating dealt with quietly. It is unfair to accuse somebody of something that he didn't do. All he said in his PM, is that he is willing to change. When I have obtained his permission, I will post his PM here.
The two options you listed.
The first one, to go silent and let Engima keep on cheating. This has never been an option for me. For the exact reason you stated.
The second one, to disclose Engima's cheating and watch as the community throws him out.
It is only fair to disclose his cheating. But I will not watch as the community throws him out and then leave myself because of guilt. I'll stand by and help him to fight the bad habit.
Fighting a habit is hard. I have seen people trying to quit smoking. I have seen people trying to leave Poly (myself included). It is hard. Help is needed. Of course help means more work. Watching constantly is a heck lot of work. But that's what a CMN does. If one does not want that responsibility, he simply chooses not to be a CMN. Cheating is not Engima's specialty. In last ACDG we have had cheating accusations flying around. A CMN has to carry out his responsibility no matter if Engima is in the game or not. If the players of a game is proved to be trustworthy, it is acceptable that the CMN checks less often. And if Engima has proved that he cannot fight his bad habit, then he will receive the punishment that nobody wants to play with him. It is this clear cut. Where is any doubt?
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