WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

[Lorizael]

Hanging out to me means playing board games with my friends. I suspect other people have different interpretations, but it's hard for me to fathom what they might be.

[Sava]

Sooooooo, have you stopped banging your love doll yet?

Yes, actually

Real Dolls retain value well. I should get around 90% of my money back when I sell

[Hauldren Collider]

Okay. Now I have to figure out what hanging out means. How do you hang out with people, folks?

Museums are usually a safe choice.

[Hauldren Collider]

Yes, actually

Real Dolls retain value well. I should get around 90% of my money back when I sell

Whoah, you bought one of those?

I heard it was like ****ing a dead body.

[Lorizael]

Be wary of anyone who claims to know what ****ing a dead body is like.

[Hauldren Collider]

Yeah, the guy who told me that was...special. I don't really associate with him if anymore when I can avoid it.

Anyway on topic I'd go for a museum or just a walk around some park or something, as long as it's not a creepy park.

[dannubis]

Hanging out to me means playing board games with my friends. I suspect other people have different interpretations, but it's hard for me to fathom what they might be.

You could do what you did last time and generally have a good time...

[Bereta_Eder]

take the time to find out what she likes then see if something she likes, you like too and then go and do it.

[Lorizael]

You could do what you did last time and generally have a good time...

Well, my asking her out was done specifically by asking her what she thought about non-writing, non-Panera activities. I want to get to know her outside the context of once a week going to the same place with the rest of the writing group and collectively staring at our laptops while pretending to write and periodically sharing the funny thing we saw on Facebook.

[dannubis]

You told us you were supposed to write a paper but instead had a good time with her... Take it from there. I wouldn't put yourself in a situation where you are (more) uncomfortable (than necessary)...

[Lorizael]

The point is that I explicitly let her know I wanted to do more than just that with her, and she seemed to think that was a dandy idea. We've been having a good time pretending to write for a couple months. Now I want to move to whatever the next stage is.

[dannubis]

well, go get her tiger

[N35t0r]

If I could really help you with that, I wouldn't be posting here.

[rah]

Hanging out means simply spending time together. Don't over complicate it.
Ask her what she likes to do and then do it. Things that you like to do can come later.
Sitting around chatting counts.

[Lorizael]

Don't over complicate it.

Indeed.

I have a lot of anxiety about this kind of thing and I've always been very passive in my friendships/relationships. Other people contact me and say, "Lori, do you want to go do X?" And if I'm free, I say yes. I assume other people are busy leading interesting lives whereas I'm just sitting at home on my computer. I don't want to impose on anyone else by interrupting them. And then you add on to that the fact that I don't have a good idea of what people do for fun. I'm not particularly adventurous, I don't take risks, I don't like throwing myself into particularly new or strange or social situations.

All of this stuff has led to tension in my relationships and was one of the big reasons why EBF and I stopped being friends. She drifted away from me because, in part, she felt that our friendship was one-sided (every once in awhile, she'd make the effort to come visit me at my place and we would hang out for a few hours, but I never really contacted her) and that exciting new people had more to offer in her in terms of things to go out and do together.