They probably felt the same way about you, then.Unfortunately, most of them were not attractive or were not interested in pursuing a relationship with me.
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Just bear in mind, Sava, that she could be a mad, obsessive ex-girlfriend who is using online dating to fullfill the fantasies she spends hours a day concocting.....she could have created a whole fake persona to lull you into a false sense of security and somehow convince herself the two of you are still together.
Just a possibility, but it could happen.
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Probably. A lot of my matches closed the match because of "lack of chemistry". The reason does not matter. The fact is that Match.com and Eharmony did not work for me.Originally posted by Asher
They probably felt the same way about you, then.
'There is a greater darkness than the one we fight. It is the darkness of the soul that has lost its way. The war we fight is not against powers and principalities, it is against chaos and despair. Greater than the death of flesh is the death of hope, the death of dreams. Against this peril we can never surrender. The future is all around us, waiting, in moments of transition, to be born in moments of revelation. No one knows the shape of that future or where it will take us. We know only that it is always born in pain.'"
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I thought Sava is gay.
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I cannot let my life be ruled by threads" The Web Frogs
Middle East!
Also Sava, do remember not to board airplanes because you never know if they'll crash -Originally posted by Verres
Just bear in mind, Sava, that she could be a mad, obsessive ex-girlfriend who is using online dating to fullfill the fantasies she spends hours a day concocting.....she could have created a whole fake persona to lull you into a false sense of security and somehow convince herself the two of you are still together.
Sava,
The biggest problem with men is that they treat women as if they were extraterrestrials.
Witness the paranoia re: "I don't want to make her think I want to sleep with her".
Jesus Christ! The whole point of dating services is to find someone who will sleep with you - that's why women use them.
She knows what you're thinking. That is why she will try to make herself seem attractive.
Of course, most women don't want some pervert who is just interested in sex (damn!), but they are themselves looking for a bedmate so don't go acting like it's just you who is tormented by lust.
Don't go out of your way trying to impress her. This makes you look desperate, which is a major turn-off that women can spot that a mile away.
Generally any form of psychological manipulation you try is going to fail. Women are just better at men at that game, both in doing it and spotting it when it is done to them. A man trying to beat a woman at this game is in no better position than a man trying to beat a woman at a "get pregnant" contest.
In fact the best thing you can do is listen to her and ask questions. The number one thing that women get pissed off about is men not listening to them.
Try to steer questions she asks about you back into things she can talk about regarding herself (don't be too obvious about this). Ask real questions, and if you ask a dumb question by accident say "sorry, that was a dumb question." Make her explain stuff more clearly if you don't get it. If she's boring, then it obviously isn't going to work between you. If she tells you about her problems, resist the male temptation to propose solutions, just sympathize with her and tell her about similar problems you have had. Telling a woman the solutions to her problems just makes it look to her as if you think she's too stupid to have thought of them, and that you enjoy organizing other people's lives.
Don't stare at her breasts. But don't not look at them either. If you stare, you'll look like a weirdo, but if you purposely try not to look, she'll notice and wonder what's wrong with you. Men cannot help but look at women's breasts. Women know this.
Similarly, women can't help but look at guys' butts. The problem is that evolution/God has made men losers at this again. It's easy to check out someone's butt without them seeing, but the placement of boobs makes it next to impossible for the poor guy.
Only feebs vote.
Originally posted by SpencerH
Arrange a lunch meeting in a public place. That way if she's a psycho-stalker you may have a chance to run away.
I did this once. Met a girl online. She sent me her pic. It looked okay but suscpiciously framed as a headshot and slightly out of focus. I figured I'd take a chance and meet her at the mall anyway.
She turned out to be 250lbs. , with a kid, (she never mentioned that), looked nothing like her picture and had a giant tatoo on her left breast which was 50% exposed from a low-cut sweater.
I tried to be polite and have a conversation with her, but her kid was on a sugar high and annoying the hell out of me. So I suggested we walk over to the little playground section of the mall to keep the kid occupied so we could talk. The kid gets there and instantly starts beating the hell out of someone else's kid. At that point I just said "See ya" and left...
Originally posted by Heresson
I thought Sava is gay.
Hey! By being offended by my insinuation, You've revealed your gay-bashing yourself!
"I realise I hold the key to freedom,
I cannot let my life be ruled by threads" The Web Frogs
Middle East!
She cut her fingers off and sent them to you?Originally posted by Sava
The last email she gave me her digits.
I will say though, Mrs Tuberski tells it like it is. It's a two way thing and if it is right the conversation will flow. Just talk about common ground that you have already discussed briefly in the past, talk pvssy or whatever
Now I know you are all going to come back at me about my 'experience'. But being well on my way to my 28th I do have a bit more savvy than I often get credit for. Just the practice hasn't quite worked out because of nervousness and anxiety, and now plain routine...
Speaking of Erith:
"It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith
well I called her and things went great...
we're meeting for drinks at a local spot around 10pm local time
more updates later.
Hope she puts out.
Only feebs vote.
well this sucked... we had some drinks, talked a bit (though it was in a bar with some dipshits doing kareoke and I couldnt' hear jackshit)... she was very up front with me and said she didn't feel we had any chemistry. i would tend to agree with that assessment. I was too shy... but hey that's how I am.
Maybe I'll try eharmony.com because match.com is stupid
I'm gonna smoke a bowl and try to forget tonight.
Sorry To hear that you didnt click. S*** happens I guess. I was gonna mention that most women if they feel nothing will most likely tell you up front. Just as I would like if a man felt that way too. so as i didnt waste my time . Whos to say you havent meet a drinking buddie if you are a drinker. Hell she might have some friends that could float your boat.
When you find yourself arguing with an idiot, you might want to rethink who the idiot really is.
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Welcome to the world of ProvostOriginally posted by Sava
well this sucked... we had some drinks, talked a bit (though it was in a bar with some dipshits doing kareoke and I couldnt' hear jackshit)... she was very up front with me and said she didn't feel we had any chemistry. i would tend to agree with that assessment. I was too shy... but hey that's how I am.
Maybe I'll try eharmony.com because match.com is stupid
I'm gonna smoke a bowl and try to forget tonight.
I thought things had been changing?Originally posted by Provost Harrison
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A better idea than meeting her straight away would have been to talk to her more online or on the phone. Get to know someone a little bit before you throw yourselves into a meeting where you have so much to talk about that you don't know what to talk about. You would find the chemistry if it was there in a way where you didnt have to be shy. Just my opinion anyway. ..
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Not romantically...no...Originally posted by Spiffor
I thought things had been changing?
My wife and I met over the internet. That was back in 1995 - 96. At that time, it was still considered a kind of weird way to get a date. She's from Michigan, USA and I'm from Bergen, Norway. She was in the States and I was over here. For months, we just talked on the net and on the phone and sent letters and e-mails back and forth. Then I went over to meet her in the summer of 1996. People thought I was kind of crazy to travel that far to spend the summer with someone I'd never met before. I guess maybe it was, but I did it anyway.
I made some mistakes during the first couple of years of our long-distance relationship and we paid for it during the first year we lived together, as she inevitably discovered that I wasn't all the things she had come to expect. We lived through it, but the lesson is clear: Be honest! Always. Don't ever try to give the impression of being someone you're not, 'cause it will be discovered at some point, and trust me, it's not worth it! If there's something you're not proud of, the best thing you can do is to come clean right away and get to work on improving it.
Women will forgive you for not being perfect - if you're honest about it!
"Politics is to say you are going to do one thing while you're actually planning to do someting else - and then you do neither."
-- Saddam Hussein
Well it's not just that - the chemistry of two people online could be completely different to IRL...
Speaking of Erith:
"It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith
Maybe she logged on and read Heresson's post before she left for the pub.
Only feebs vote.
Yep. This is true. And I guess we experienced a tad of that as well. In our case, it was nothing that couldn't be overcome though.Originally posted by Provost Harrison
Well it's not just that - the chemistry of two people online could be completely different to IRL...
"Politics is to say you are going to do one thing while you're actually planning to do someting else - and then you do neither."
-- Saddam Hussein
Is there such a thing of chemistry online. I had no real feelings for tuberski till i met him in person. He was good conversation and made me laugh since i was go thru a break up with another guy. and he with his soon to be ex wife.
When you find yourself arguing with an idiot, you might want to rethink who the idiot really is.
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Being dyslexic is hard work. I don't even try anymore.
Online dating is next to impossible.
I'm dating a guy named Jake.. he and I met at an art gallery nearby. We just chatted, and went out for a coffee.. I kinda picked up he was gay... as he did me.
You need to find someone in real life, because more often then not, online dating doesn't work.
Tell me that if you are with Jake in 4 years, of course by then me and the Mrs. will be together for 8.Originally posted by Giancarlo
Online dating is next to impossible.
I'm dating a guy named Jake.. he and I met at an art gallery nearby. We just chatted, and went out for a coffee.. I kinda picked up he was gay... as he did me.
You need to find someone in real life, because more often then not, online dating doesn't work.
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He never buys... any smokes.
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Why is that relevant?Originally posted by Tuberski
Tell me that if you are with Jake in 4 years, of course by then me and the Mrs. will be together for 8.
I actually know several couples who met on the internet. It sounds a bit strange at first but when you really think about it the internet is a good place to meet new people who enjoy the same things you do.Originally posted by Mrs. Tuberski
Tuberski and I meet on the internet NOt on a dating site but in the IM CHAt rooms We talked for 3 months before we actually met. and we have been married now for 4 years. I d say go for it.
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Because they met online.Originally posted by Giancarlo
Why is that relevant?
Well I didn't say all the time... I said most of the time...Originally posted by JimmyCracksCorn
Because they met online.
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