Video on how to get a woman?

[MikeH]

A libertarian and a patriarch? Jesus.

[Heraclitus]

I think aneeshms post flew right over most of your heads or just your tldr attitutdes.

He is saying he dosen't use game to get women because it is too easy a way to get sex and female attention. This would make him feel good in the short term but would make him less motivated to pursue the objectives he has in mind for the far veiw. The same rationale can be aplied to drug use.

He's also implying the effort required to maintan a relationship with good game rises over the progression of the relationship rapidly untill it hits the point where, not only are you better off investing additional effort in ways to build "real" status, but are actually better off scraping some of the effort put into game to build such status, unfortunatley building things like being an interesting person or having a higher income are endevaours where diminishing returns are rapidly hit if you attempt to accelerate the process so it fits the narrow window to save the relationship. Thus a young low real world status PUA gets stuck in a cycle spending lots of energy on game for a series of relationships that are doomed to fail after every few years.

He uses game as a diagnostic tool, to tell him what he needs.
I would however point out one criticism of this view. I think one gets quite a bit of use from game if one is in a line of buisness where he has to deal with or manage people, in that line of work one could get lots of spin-off if one devoted energy to game. It also is sure to help with things like job interviews or presentations or how to properly diagnose and navigate workplace power structures.

But again to acheive this one needs to take the wide view of gam and a thorought understanding of several concepts from difficult fields like economics, evopysch and the less squish parts of psychology and sociology.

[MikeH]

I think you are missing the point where he said he was an admitted sexist.

[Flubber]

aneeshm is probably overthinking things a bit. Laz is right - if you can make 'em laugh so hard Bacardi comes out of their nose, I think you're good to go.

That's more of my game. I'm not that attractive relatively speaking, I'm not rich, etc. I have to get by on personality, humor, and fun. Fortunately I am pretty solid on that front. Snide remarks aside, if I'm not, odds are I wouldn't be getting laid.

Funny works

In law school I knew a guy that got laid more than anyone. I remember seeing him chatting up some girl and being his zany self. Whe she said something like "you're so funny" he responded with " I'm poor, 5 foot one and have a small penis, I HAVE to be funny" and said it with such a grin that she just burst out laughing.

Some people just can do that. The same guy once told the senior partner's wife in his firm to "lick his balls". I forget the context but again she just rolled with laughter. He WAS short and not particularly attractive but hell did he make people laugh!!


Its a skill-- the ability to be funny all the time and not one that everyone can master. I could never have carried off the stuff that guy did. But then again he was a bit notorious--

For someone that is not naturally that way, other approaches may be better.

I know I just talked to women and most of them found me "interesting" but that is because I had them talk mostly about themselves . I found just being interesting to them and then moving things slightly in a romatic/sexual direction worked well. No tricks. Just pay attention to the girl and follow the cues

[Asher]

That must explain why I'm so successful with the ladies.

[DanS]

In an oddly appropriate coincidence, a girl, in the course of a texting conversation tonight, said "I need to start working out tomorrow".

My response? "I seriously doubt it."

Enabler

[David Floyd]

Flubber, yeah, I've been known to say pretty outrageous things. For example, I used this gem recently with a woman I'd just met:

Her: "What are you doing tomorrow?"
Me: "Sleeping in, then watching TV while you cook me breakfast."

She laughed her ass off, because I said it with a ****-eating grin and my delivery was on. And yep, I ended up sleeping with her

[Asher]

Of course you did.

[Al B. Sure!]

I think I should make it clear... I have no intentions of sleeping with any of these women. I just want a loving and fulfilling relationship.

[David Floyd]

There's no such thing as a loving and fulfilling relationship without sex. Sex is part of any healthy relationship. That mindset will also cause girls to run away, as they need and want sex as much as (most) guys do.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Well, Speer, apparently being a practicing Muslim, may wish to wait for sex, which is perfectly fine (at least until both are in love with each other, if not actual marraige). Sex will be there, but the loving and fulfilling relationship to come first.

[Asher]

There's no such thing as a loving and fulfilling relationship without sex.

So you have sex with your family members?

[Al B. Sure!]

I'm NOT a practicing Muslim. I don't believe in God. I just follow his rules.

[Asher]

At what point do people stop "practicing" religion and graduate to the real thing?

[David Floyd]

If you don't believe in God, why follow "his rules"? That makes no sense, you are senselessly restricting yourself in a way that WILL be a turnoff for most women.