You've Been Invited to Her Place...

[Sava]

also, the best thing you could do is the opposite of what BK and Kid would do.

[Ben Kenobi]

Not getting dangerously drunk is still a good idea and saying you shouldn't advise people to make good decisions because it's blaming the victim is really counterproductive.

Exactly. Part of being a responsible adult is not putting yourself into situations that are likely to have a poor outcome.

[Sava]

sometimes I get curious, but I still don't view their posts

not even for ****s and giggles

[Ben Kenobi]

the best thing you could do is the opposite of what BK and Kid would do.

Uh, last I checked, Kid actually managed to get married. I'd take his experience with women over yours.

[snoopy369]

It's not black and white, but pretending it is 50/50 is disingenuous. Men are generally more interested in sex, more willing to participate, stronger, and bear fewer consequences for it. In particular, the power relationship is heavily weighted towards men. As such, on balance, the concern is primarily for the woman in that relationship; and arguments of the sort that suggest it should be equal are not dissimilar to the arguments for pro-white affirmative action.

That said, I don't think anyone here would object to restating it in the opposite direction, and at least for me, the answer is the same [evaluating a third party's decision]. The issue here is that all of the regular posters here are male (or at least, all of the ones I know the gender of, and certainly the far majority). Thus, the question phrased in the first person ought to assume the decider is male.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Also I'm with Lori, why the **** would you sleep in the same bed if you're not having sex.

I've done that many times.

[100% Wolf]

Try walking around with a sign, "I'd like you to sleep with me in my bed tonight." and see how long it is before the cops come and get you.

Such proposals are perfectly legal.

[Ben Kenobi]

Such proposals are perfectly legal.

Pics or it didn't happen.

[MRT144]

It seems like you are skipping lots of steps. Do you people not believe in direct questions?

"Are we having sex?"

"You wanna have sex?"
"You wanna ride the D Train?"
"Have you gotten your daily supply of vitamin D?"

[100% Wolf]

What do you want me to do, find you a youtube video of someone hitting on girls and not getting arrested because it's perfectly legal?

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Is this some sort of weird hangover from the Pilgrim Fathers that stops Americans asking "Fancy a shag?"?

[Ben Kenobi]

What do you want me to do, find you a youtube video of someone hitting on girls and not getting arrested because it's perfectly legal?

Make the sign. Strap a camera, or get a buddy to film you and walk around in a public place with lots of people. Or get a camera and take shots.

[kentonio]

It's not black and white, but pretending it is 50/50 is disingenuous. Men are generally more interested in sex, more willing to participate, stronger, and bear fewer consequences for it. In particular, the power relationship is heavily weighted towards men. As such, on balance, the concern is primarily for the woman in that relationship; and arguments of the sort that suggest it should be equal are not dissimilar to the arguments for pro-white affirmative action.

I don't think that's true. It's a very real concern for many men that they could get drunk and wake up having had sex, with both parties having no recollection of events, yet the male being told he is guilty of rape. Unless there is a very, very solid reason for assuming one gender receives a different interpretation of justice than the other, that's not a fair situation. I understand why we deal with it how we do, but it troubles me because it can lead to huge injustice.

For me at least it's not comparable to pro-white affirmative action, because we're talking about the justice system and the potentially catastrophic destruction of peoples lives. The question really does become "Is it ok for 0.x% of men to be unfairly convicted of rape if it helps bring down the total rape numbers?". That's a genuine problem, not something that you should just brush off as an example of male privilege.

[Kidlicious]

Uh, last I checked, Kid actually managed to get married. I'd take his experience with women over yours.

I'm not expecting to get a badge for giving in to terrorist demands, but thanks.

[Buster Crabbe's Uncle]

_W/racism for added value...