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    Cute Girl at Supermarket

    Unlike AS I am pretty damn good at keeping relationships going, but not so good at picking up girls or initiating things. In fact I've never so much as asked a girl for her number when out and about.

    Lately, this incredibly cute cashier at the grocery store I frequent has been looking over at me and smiling a lot when I'm in the store. Obviously I have to man up and talk to her. This is a dumb question, but what do I say? How do I do it?
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    For this sort of question, we need the help of Pekka.

    Seriously, though, try "hi, what's up" and let it go from there. Treat it as a normal conversation, try to convince yourself to act natural. And slip in, "are you doing anything when your shift ends? I'd love to take you out for coffee/tea/a long philosophical discussion of your kid brother's right to vote later."
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    Tell her you are "kind of a big deal", and "you may remember me from such TV shows as _______________".

    If things go well, you can progress to phase two: Tell her how your apartment smells of rich mahogany and you have many leather-bound books.
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    Note any difference and then comment on it in a positive way. A winner every time.
    'Your hair really looks good this way'. 'nice shoes' BINGO.
    It shows you've been paying attention to her.
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    weren't you kissing a girl the other day. you slut!
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    weren't you kissing a girl the other day. you slut!
    Eh, doesn't look like it is gonna work out with her. Moving on.
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    OR, she can assume you thought her hair looked like crap all this time.
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    Funny slow, but yeah you'd think some women would think that but I've never seen a woman not light up brightly after that line.
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    For this sort of question, we need the help of Pekka.

    Seriously, though, try "hi, what's up" and let it go from there. Treat it as a normal conversation, try to convince yourself to act natural. And slip in, "are you doing anything when your shift ends? I'd love to take you out for coffee/tea/a long philosophical discussion of your kid brother's right to vote later."
    I'm not terribly good with small talk or initiating conversations with people I don't know. (i.e. the whole problem)

    Plus, she is a cashier, so whatever I say I'm probably gonna say while in the checkout lane with people behind me and her ringing me up. Unless I hang around for an hour or two waiting for her to go on break, but that'd just be super creepy, no way would I do that.
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    Funny slow, but yeah you'd think some women would think that but I've never seen a woman not light up brightly after that line.
    Also, it'd have to actually be true. I don't remember details on how she does her hair or what shoes she wears.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OzzyKP View Post
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    Also, it'd have to actually be true. I don't remember details on how she does her hair or what shoes she wears.
    Then how interested in her could you be?
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    Then how interested in her could you be?
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    just go and buy some groceries when the store is about to close, or when you know it's really quiet. also, the fact that you won't have much time will disguise the fact that you're crap at small talk.
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    And after a few compliments, she'll be looking forward to seeing you in the future. I'd be willing to bet that after a few more comments, she'll initiate conversation. Once she does that, asking her to go for a quick cup of coffee is easy. Who cares what the people in line think. Most of them will probably be envious anyway.
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    Ozzy, it appears that the problem is an excess of thinking. Now you've talked yourself out of it, for reasons that are all in your imagination.

    Just establish a verbal starting point. The fact that she's a cashier works to your advantage, because you are gone before the conversation can break down into awkward pauses. Try something along the lines of "Hello, how's it going today?"

    Once speaking with you is an established ritual, you can move on to advance topics, like names.
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    SHE PROBABLY HAS A NAME TAG!
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    Do absolutely nothing, move on with your life. Forget about this silly "girl" business. Go play a video game, order a pizza, and listen to AAHZ music for the next 5 years.

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    Pull her hair, but not too hard. Run away giggling

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    Does she work at Safeway? If so, when she asks you for your club card tell her you forgot it at home and give her a slip of paper with your phone number on it.

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    Lean close to her and say "you smell even better than you look".
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    You guys are creepy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SlowwHand View Post
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    You guys are creepy.



    You're just figuring that out now? Look how fast we scared Eco away.
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    Dude, just ask for her number/when she gets off. Women decide whether they're interested within the first 30 seconds just like men. Don't be creepy, be friendly, smile. If she says no there's probably not much you could have done.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OzzyKP View Post
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    Also, it'd have to actually be true. I don't remember details on how she does her hair or what shoes she wears.
    It doesn't actually have to be true. Remember, this is just an excuse to start talking to her. You could say something like "Did you do something different with your hair? I kinda like it". If she's interested in you she won't give a hoot whether it's true or not.
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    Eh, doesn't look like it is gonna work out with her. Moving on.
    I thought you were 'pretty damn good at keeping relationships going'?
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    Quote Originally Posted by OzzyKP View Post
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    I'm not terribly good with small talk or initiating conversations with people I don't know. (i.e. the whole problem)

    Plus, she is a cashier, so whatever I say I'm probably gonna say while in the checkout lane with people behind me and her ringing me up. Unless I hang around for an hour or two waiting for her to go on break, but that'd just be super creepy, no way would I do that.
    You don't need an hour to flirt and express interest.
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    Is she a minor, working in a grocery store and all?
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    My suggestion, for what it's worth, is to not over-think it. If you think she's looking at you, then you really don't have to do that much. But if it turns out it was in your head or other things are going on and she's not interested, don't sweat it. If you didn't notice little things about how her hair was, etc., you're not that interested to get hung over on a rejection.

    I would suggest just making a comment and having a short conversation. The situation with other customers, her working, and the fact that you won't be able to having a lengthy conversation is very much to your advantage! You can go a number of ways here.

    You can go the innocent, casual route and just comment on something about the supermarket or the job or the food you're buying (have you ever had this before? You think it's good?) even just how is she doing (she might just say fine here so you need to keep the conversation going... maybe say something BRIEF but INTERESTING about your day).

    You can go the compliment route and imply interest without stating it. Compliment her hair. NEVER say anything like you look pretty. Compliment on something specific like her hairstyle. You could in theory just make that compliment and keep it moving then the next time you're in there (NOT the next day, by the way!), she'll probably be more open to talk or may initiate conversation.

    You can also go direct and try to get the number right away but I honestly wouldn't suggest this if the only words you two have exchanged have been the total and whether you want plastic or paper. If you do choose this route, or you'll use it later down the line, you have to be confident and have a plan of what you want to do. For example, Give me your number and if you're free on Saturday, we can go and see that such and such movie. See that? ASSUME THE SALE! You're not asking for her number or giving her yours, you are TELLING her to give it to you and you already have a plan for what to do. If she says she can't do Saturday, don't go all "well what about sunday or friday? or when are you free? Oh my god, are you ever available when i'm available?! Do you like me or not?! FREAKOUT!" Your best bet is to just say, oh maybe some other time and keep it moving. If she's not interested, you save face, and if she is but she couldn't do that day, she now knows you're interested but not TOO interested.
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